A Spacious Place

One Down

2010-12-29T23:04:00.002-06:00

One year down cancer-free. For those who have followed by blog in the past and lifted me up in prayer, thank you! It is hard to believe that it has been almost 2 years since I was diagnosed. 2009 was a year of treatment and 2010 has been a year of finding the new normal. I have been so grateful to have 3 clear mammograms and a clear MRI this year. Some of you have been so kind to check up on me through email, and I even got to have my first blog friend face-to-face meeting with Kim at Lifesong (so fun). So I am going to give a quick update for those of you who were interested.

I was diagnosed in January 2009 and spent the majority of the year going through treatment, which included surgery, 5 months of chemotherapy, and 6 weeks of radiation. As I mentioned, over the past year I have had clear tests. From here, I will continue to be closely monitored over the next 3-5 years.

Having had some distance from my treatment, I have been able to more clearly reflect how I believe this trial has refined me. I plan on sharing some of those lessons in the months to come. I will say that the James 1 has come to have profound meaning to me. Consider it pure joy...

Focus

2009-09-26T15:40:00.003-05:00

I had such good intentions of blogging through this journey of cancer treatment. For me, though, I found that I needed to focus on beating this--and that took most of my energy. I know that I will be "un-packing" the many lessons God has taught me along the way for many years to come. I hope to share them in the days to come.

Since I last posted, I have completed 5 months of chemotherapy, had a lumpectomy to remove my tumor, and am halfway through 6 weeks of radiation. Overall, I have done really well through most of it, keeping a pretty normal schedule. God has been so faithful through it all, bringing a peace and strengthening my support system. Having clear lymph nodes and other good news along the way has certainly been an answer to prayer.

As I look to completing treatment, my biggest issue is trying to prepare myself not to live in fear. I do not want to worry about whether or not my cancer will come back. I want to live in the love of Christ, above the fear that Satan wants to use to keep me distracted. So I guess I will be shifting my focus from surviving to LIVING!

Going, Going, Gone

2009-03-04T09:04:00.005-06:00

A couple of weeks ago my hair started shedding more, so I decided to be proactive and have my husband shave it off. I wasn't sure how this part of the journey would be. Since then, I have been pretty okay, since my wonderful husband says I look beautiful bald--he's the greatest! I have not bought a wig yet, and am sticking with hats. This has just been another humbling part of this journey.

On the upside: It will be fun to watch it grow back and try some new hairstyles I never would have tried before. The doctors have told me that hair often grows back different initially. So I might get to try curly, dark hair for awhile:)

Thought I would share a few pics of my transformation. It sure does cut down on getting ready--no hair drying or styling!

The Body of Christ

2009-02-24T11:01:00.003-06:00

Over the past several weeks, I have begun chemotherapy. With this comes nausea and fatigue in varying degrees of severity. For me, this has meant several days of nausea where I don't feel like eating anything, as well as extreme fatigue. Being young and in pretty good shape has helped, I believe, as I have bounced back pretty well in between treatments, so far.

While no one chooses this road, I continue to be so blessed and learn so much along the way. One particularly powerful blessing has been seeing the Body of Christ in action. My family, friends, and church family have overwhelmed me and my family with calls, cards, notes, messages, meals, baby-sitting offers, gift cards, and PRAYERS. This outpouring of love and support has meant a great deal to our family. We see and feel the love of Christ reflected in so many around us. Until going through this trial, I never realized the power of the Body of Christ to encourage.

This picture of Christ's love made action has changed our family forever. It spurs us on to BE that love in action in the future. I can see more clearly my selfishness in the past, and am convicted to encourage those in need from this point forward. This blessing and lesson is another way God is redeeming this illness in my life.

New Definition

2009-02-02T10:39:00.003-06:00

We define ourselves by so many things and in so many ways. Wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend are roles that come to mind. We define ourselves by our personality traits--funny, reflective, stubborn, organized. We label ourselves--athlete, artist, homemaker. All these roles, traits, and labels help us define who we are.

I have acquired a new label--breast cancer patient. In the coming months, I pray that will become breast cancer survivor. This past month has been packed with much prayer and reflection on how this new journey will impact my life and those around me. I will never be the same person I was before January 8th. I have a new urgency in life, a new perspective. What is worthy of my time, my talents, and my efforts? This new label that defines me will change forever my priorities, and for this I can be thankful. It is the first of many blessings that God will give me on this journey, I believe.

We are given such a short time on earth to reach others for the gospel of Christ. I do not want to waste my time with the things of this world. I want the definition of who I am to be hidden in Christ.

**Good news-Thursday I received the word that my lymph node biopsy was negative for malignancy!**

Going Pink-Updated

2009-01-25T09:22:00.004-06:00

On January 8th, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. All indications are that it is in early stages, which is a blessing. I will be going through chemotherapy, surgery, and possibly radiation over the next months. I covet your prayers during this new journey. My prayer is to "consider it pure joy" during this trial, that God may be glorified through my weakness. I hope that I may then be able to minister to other women who experience this disease after my recovery.

"Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything." (James 1:1-4)

**Tuesday Update**
I had surgery yesterday to put in the chemotherapy port and have a lymph node biopsy. I will get my first chemotherapy treatment on Wednesday the 28th. I am anxious to start killing some cancer cells! I hope to be back at the computer by Friday:) Thank you all for your words and encouragement and prayers!

Perpetual Factory of Idols

2008-10-17T08:55:00.003-05:00

I am being truly challenged reading Worldliness, a new book edited by C.J. Mahaney. Mahaney opens in the first chapter discussing 1 John 2:15, which states, "Do not love the world or the things in the world." Not much wiggle room there. We are called to reject the things of this world. This verse is not saying that we should not love people, but rather the world system that opposes everything about God. Mahaney states that worldliness is "loving the values and pursuits that stand opposed to God . . . to gratify and exalt oneself to the exclusion of God."

Many of us might say that we do not love the world, but it is so easy to slowly edge toward the world. The church itself is beginning to not be so distinct in its values and priorities. I am reminding of the song by Casting Crowns called "Slow Fade." The words talk about the move away from God is a slow fade, not usually a dramatic rejection. Give a little here, give a little there, and suddenly we are somewhere we did not intend to be.

Mahaney gives the example of Demas in 2 Timothy. Demas was a dedicated friend and traveling companion to Paul. He saw the work of the Lord first hand. Yet, in 2 Timothy 4:10 Paul writes, "Demas, in love with this present world, has deserted me." This is a tragic verse, and sobering. We are not above "fading" due to the influence of this world.

How do we combat worldliness? Mahaney points out that the battle is within. The desires of our hearts are not always bad, but are deadly when we "must" have them. He notes that John Calvin says our hearts are a perpetual factory of idols. Ouch! This is so true. Left to our own devices, we tend to create idols, things that compete with God's true place in our hearts.

What captivates us? Are we preoccupied with the temporary and superficial things of this world? Do we have "living affections to dying things" (John Owen)?

I desperately do not want to waste my life on the temporary. I do not want my heart to be a "perpetual factory of idols." I want to live in light of eternity. Mahaney points out that the only antidote to worldliness is the cross of Christ. As we seek Christ with abandon, he notes that "the things of this world will grow strangely dim, in the light of His glory and grace." Alleluia!

Wielding a Two-Edged Sword

2008-09-30T10:14:00.004-05:00

If you are like me, there come days where I feel so helpless. So drained from the challenges. So unequipped to deal with what I face. It is a very vulnerable feeling.

At those times, I can reflect on the lack of preparation on my part to plug into my power source--to seek wisdom and discernment from the One who gives it freely. Our sovereign, holy Lord has given us to power to be more than conquerors through Jesus Christ. We do not have to feel helpless and unequipped. We just have to find our strength in Him. God has given us two specific "weapons" to use each day as we face attacks and challenges--the ministry of the Holy Spirit and His inspired word.

Hebrews 4:12 states, "For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart."

How wonderful that His word is living and active! It is an effective weapon to fight "the schemes of the evil one."

II Timothy 3:16-17 states, "All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work."

We don't have to feel unequipped and vulnerable to our challenges. Sure, there are tought times we will go through, pain we will experience. But we have the tools to face them and overcome through His power in us!

The key, though, in wielding a two-edged sword is training. "Wielding" is described as "using with skill or ease, or using effectively." To wield His word, we must be familar with it. We must "train" daily to use it effectively.

God has convicted my heart in this area. It is an area that requires surrender and discipline, or the distractions of the world take over. I have found two books that have been encouraging to me in the area of developing and prioritizing a daily Bible study and prayer time.

A Place of Quiet Rest by Nancy Leigh DeMoss - The BEST book I have read on developing a daily devotional life from an outstanding Bible teacher. It is scripturally based and extremely practical!
Shopping for Time by Carolyn Mahaney - This thin book can be read at one sitting and provides wonderful advice on best using your time, including prioritizing to include time with the Lord every day.

My husband and I have recently committed to getting up together at 5am to have time to spend in Bible study and prayer. We do this separately, but it is motivating and encouraging to do the getting up together! Early mornings are harder for me, but I am finding this time to be precious and I feel so much more equipped entering my day. Rather than waiting until later in the day, I "wield the sword" first thing! I will be striving to grow stronger and more effective in using His word.

Beginning Again

2008-09-23T13:04:00.003-05:00

Autumn. This is absolutely my favorite time of year. In conventional thought, spring represents new beginnings and rebirth, but for me, autumn brings a wonderful sense of anticipation. In many ways, I think I operate on the school year calendar-August is a time of beginnings. There is something refreshing about a clean slate, a new school year, watching the old fall away seen symbolically in the splendid colors of the fall leaves.

Spiritually, I am so thankful for new beginnings. For grace, forgiveness, and a chance to cast off the old and be transformed by the renewing of our minds and hearts. What an amazing and sovereign God we serve! His love is incomprehensible!

Lucky 13

2008-06-04T09:45:00.006-05:00

This is one of my favorite pictures of "my guys"--my husband and son. My husband and I celebrated our 13th Wedding Anniversary yesterday! It is been a joy and blessing to have this man life. We have been through wonderful times and times of challenge and struggle, but through it all the Lord has blessed and refined us. I believe that it is only in the past few years that I have come to understand more clearly God's purpose and design for marriage. It is for His glory--we just get to be used and blessed through it.

I can look back and see God's sovereignty in bringing us together. We serve an amazing God! Today, to celebrate the "Lucky 13th," I wanted to list 13 things about my wonderful partner. There are so many more though! Thanks for indulging me:)

1. He loves the Lord and seeks to put Him first in everything. He did this from the moment we started dating 17 years ago.

2. He is a gentleman. He was trained with "old school" manners, which is severely lacking these days in our society.

3. He is my best friend. We talk about everything.

4. He is passionate about missions. He was saved on a mission trip in college before we met that he went on "just for the fun" of a new experience. Since then, he has led trips to Honduras, Brazil, inner-city Memphis, Nicaragua, and Kenya.

5. His willingness to submit to the Lord's leading. When we met, he was a Biology major planning on going to dental school. During his senior year, the Lord called him to seminary. Many people thought he was crazy. We were obedient and he is now a minister and knows he is where the Lord wants him.

6. His commitment to me and our family.

7. He is a great dad and really works at it, takes the responsibility seriously. He adores our kids and spends lots of time with them. They know their dad loves them!

8. He cooks and bakes--homemade bread (not with a machine) and soups are his specialty.

9. He is very "handy." We are remodeling a house we bought, and he is doing virtually everything. He has a knack for it, and I love how he just learns as he goes with new projects.

10. I LOVE his laugh. During movies, I get more tickled at him laughing than at the joke.

11. He is 6'5". For someone who is 5'10", this is great--I can wear heels!

12. I trust him completely.

13. His brown eyes.

Happy Anniversary Sweetheart! I am still head over heels in love!

Do Hard Things

2008-04-29T10:27:00.004-05:00

I am a fan of The Rebelution website and its founders Alex & Brett Harris, two 19 year-olds purposing to make a difference and challenge teenagers to rebel against low expectations and serve the Lord in big ways. So I was so excited to see their new book, "Do Hard Things," in Wal-Mart last Friday--yes, Walmart! I snatched it up and plowed through it in a couple of days. I believe that this is a must-read for every teen, tween, parents of teens & tweens, future parents of teens & tweens, or just anybody that works with youth. For that matter, I think that anyone would be challenged by the passion and boldness of this book!

As parents of a 9 year-old son and 6 year-old daughter, my husband desperately seek to fill our children with the Truth and challenge them to know and serve Him intimately and passionately. I never want to fall into having low expectations on how God might use their lives, the gifts and abilities He has given them. In working with college students for over 12 years, I see also in them such a desire to do something meaningful. If that isn't cultivated, stagnation sets in. At 34, I feel that in my own life. We want our lives to be meaningful and purposeful in light of eternity!

This book challenges teens, in particular, to "do hard things"--not to be satisfied with the low expectations that our culture places on them. It gives inspiring examples of past and present-day teens who are choosing hard things--and accomplishing extraordinary things!

They describe 5 kinds of hard things:

Things that take you outside your comfort zone--taking risks to grow

Things that go beyond what's expected or required--pursuing excellence

Things that are too big to accomplish alone--dreaming and daring big

Things that don't earn an immediate payoff--being faithful and choosing integrity

Things that go against the cultural norm--taking a stand for what it right

Then they challenge teens to look critically at their own lives and how they can do these hard things in their own lives.

Receiving praise from people like C.J. Mahaney, Albert Mohler, Randy Alcorn, and Mark Dever, "Do Hard Things" is really a fantastic book that I would recommend to all teens and those who love and work with them. As Christians, may we have higher expectations for teens and challenge them to "do hard things." Ultimately, may we model doing hard things for them! We serve an amazing and sovereign God who limitless in how He can work through willing servants to further His kingdom!

Your Legacy

2008-04-22T13:51:00.002-05:00

I am enjoying Faithful Women & Their Extraordinary God by Noel Piper. It is a collection of short biographies of Christian women. The section on Sarah Edwards, wife of pastor Jonathan Edwards, was powerful and challenging. She was a wife/mother/home educator who glorified God through her home.

She left behind a legacy through her 11 children when she died in 1758 that is quite incredible. In 1900, A. E. Winship researched and wrote of the outstanding contributions made by the descendants of Jonathan & Sarah Edwards. Listed below is some of what he found. Note that this study was done in 1900--I am sure there have been further contributions since that time!

13 college presidents
65 professors
100 lawyers and dean of a law school
30 judges
66 physicians and a dean of a medical school
80 holders of public office ( including 3 US Senators, 3 state governors, and a vice president of the US)
entered ministry "in platoons"
sent 100 missionaries overseas

Amazing right? It truly is amazing what God can do through "ordinary" women when they choose to faithfully submit to their husbands and bring their children up "in the admonition of the Lord." I was so challenged in reading her story. All mothers have such an opportunity and responsibility to pour the love and knowledge of Christ into their children and prepare them to serve God in mighty ways.

What will my legacy be as a mother? What will yours be? Will our legacy be one that brings honor and glory to our Savior? Our legacy is made in those small, everyday moments as we reflect Christ to those around us!

Keeping It Real

2008-04-08T09:29:00.004-05:00

You know her. You know the perfect gal who has it all together--she is the model wife and mother, intelligent & wise, witty & fun. She can whip up a wonderful home-cooked meal in her pristinely kept home and host guests at the drop of a hat. She does all of this while maintaining her toned figure and manicured nails. You know her--a crazy figment of our very overactive and distorted imaginations!

The perfect woman. What does this mean? Unfortunately, I believe that we have taken the Proverbs 31 woman and morphed her into something that is far from the goal to be striving for. The focus has become much more on being "perfect," than bringing glory to God and honoring Him.

In her new book co-written with Stacey MacDonald (Passionate Housewives Desperate for God), Jennie Chancey writes about he bondage of perfectionism.

Perfectionism is the false idea that a righteous man never falls- or when he does, he certainly doesn't admit it, lest he discourage everyone who is watching him run!

Where do we get this crazy idea? We are sinners, saved only by the grace of God. We are going to fall. We are not going to be perfect. While this realization is not an excuse to "embrace our inner slob," as Chancey states, we must not try to put on the perfect persona. We must be real and authentic is our pursuit of holiness, submitting humbly to the process of sanctification--which is sometimes a bumpy and painful process as He refines us.

Jennie also writes:

At its heart, perfectionism is sinful pride. We want others to think well of us, to admire us, and to desire to follow our example.

Too many times, we can rationalize all the efforts we put forth, saying we are seeking to honor Him. I know I must aways make sure my motives are focused on Him and not on what I may get out of it. I think it can be so tempting to present ourselves as "having it all together." This can be particularly easy on our blogs!

As we seek to encourage one another in our spiritual walks, may we remember that "His strength is made perfect in weakness (II Corinthians 12:9). He uses us to minister to others when our motives are pure and we are real with others. No one likes a "fake" person.

Jennie writes:

You know how we can encourage each other best? It's not by playing the role of Have-It All Hannah or Do-It All Doris. It's by loving others enough to meet them where they are while being what we are: fellow sinners in need.

Instead of worrying what others think about us, we need to care about what God thinks of us, measuring ourselves by the unchanging standard of God's word rather than comparing ourselves to others. Instead of looking to modern-day "experts" for answers, we need to return to the "old paths" of Scripture, where there is "rest for our souls" (Jeremiah 6:16). Instead of seeking to make a name for ourselves or be "important," we need to thankfully embrace the fact that God works through humble people, small steps, and what the world considers insignificant and often thankless work.

So as you go through your day, be real. While passionately pursuing Christ and holiness, don't fall into Satan's trap of pursuing perfectionism. Allow God to redeem our failures and weaknesses for His Glory. Submit your will and pride to Him--He can use you to minister and encourage others.

So many of you out there have ministered to me with your struggles and "realness." Let's keep it real!

Do the Next Thing

2008-04-01T08:35:00.002-05:00

I don't know about you guys, but I like to be in control and know what is coming next. I love my planner and the comfort of knowing what is ahead. I have had to grow in the areas of submission and trust. The Lord has stretched me through unexpected trials and challenges.

I have always said that I wish I had a huge spotlight showing me what is down the road in my journey, but have learned to accept that most of the time God gives me a small flashlight--only shining light on the next step on my path. I must submit my desire to know what is ahead and trust and obey for that one step forward.

A wonderful poem quoted often by Elisabeth Elliot captures this:

Do the Next Thing

At an old English parsonage down by the sea,

there came in the twilight a message to me.

Its quaint Saxon legend deeply engraven that,

as it seems to me, teaching from heaven.

And all through the hours the quiet words ring,

like a low inspiration, "do the next thing."

Many a questioning, many a fear,

many a doubt hath its quieting here.

Moment by moment, let down from heaven,

time, opportunity, guidance are given.

Fear not tomorrow, child of the King,

trust that with Jesus, do the next thing.

Do it immediately, do it with prayer,

do it reliantly, casting all care.

Do it with reverence, tracing His hand,

who placed it before thee with earnest command.

Stayed on omnipotence, safe 'neath His wing,

leave all results, do the next thing.

Looking to Jesus, ever serener,

working or suffering be thy demeanor,

in His dear presence, the rest of His calm,

the light of His countenance, be thy psalm.

Strong in His faithfulness, praise and sing,

Then, as He beckons, do the next thing.

So, dear friend, as you face each day, trust that He is Sovereign and in control. He is Creator of all and knows each step of the path intimately--He fashioned it! Concentrate on Him. Seek passionate to follow closely after Him. Don't worry at what the journey will bring, just do the next thing. Do not be overwhelmed at the tasks ahead, do the one directly in front of you.

Are You Real?

2008-03-04T09:36:00.002-06:00

I have just finished reading Raising Respectful Children in a Disrespectful World by Jill Rigby, and would definitely recommend it! It is an easy read with lots of practical information.

As the mother of a "tween" boy, one section really hit me in particular over the weekend. The author present two critical questions for parents to answer in each stage of their child's development. For tweens, these were "do you really love me?" and "are you real?"

Are you real? Most of us would say, of course, what a silly question. We think that we are "past" getting caught up in the opinions of others that characterizes adolescence, but are we? Don't we worry about having the "perfect house" to entertain or be known as a great cook. We can get caught up, even within the church, with trying being something we are not to gain approval--or not being willing to share struggles, because we want to seem as if we have it all together.

The author states:
If you're not authentic, your children will rebel in disrespect toward you and, often, toward society. Children respect parents who are respectable. If you expect from yourself that which you expect from your children, you'll all pass this test. Be the person you want your child to become. We teach what we know, but we reproduce who we are."

The author warns that children learn more from what we do than what we say. While instruction is key in a child's growth, we mustn't forget much of that instruction comes without reading a single line and saying anything. Much of what the disciples learned from Christ was through what they saw Him do, not say.

Some ways we can demonstrate our faith authentically to our children, according to the author:

Be the same on the inside as you appear on the outside.
Don't say one thing and do another.
Be honest in your dealings with others.
Don't show any hypocrisy.

So I ask again, are you real? Your child can probably tell you! May we seek to live out our faith before our children, struggles and all.

Indispensable

2008-02-20T09:54:00.002-06:00

Definition of dispensable - easy to discard, to set aside, or to do without

My translation - unimportant.

In the aftermath of the tornadoes that hit my community, I have seen the difference between what is dispensable and indispensable in a very tangible way.

Dispensable-IPods, computers, clothes, jewelry, cars, televisions, essentially many of the things we believe "we can not live without"

Indispensable-God's grace, precious lives, hugs from families and friends, community, love, compassion, the body of Christ

How quickly we can turn dispensable into indispensable, totally messing up how we view our lives and what is truly important. We help create a society where Biblical values are hard to see and identify. I desire to see clearly "whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy." (Phillipians 4:7-8)

This storm also reminded me how small and important I can feel--how we all can feel very dispensable. What joy and comfort that we serve a God who finds us indispensable! We have worth and purpose because we have been "bought with a price" and find our identity in Christ.

As a mom, I want to pass on this view on self-worth, rather than the empty self-esteem that our world promotes. I am challenging myself and you to take inventory in your life? Where are you placing your treasure-the dispensable or the indispensable?

Kelly

More Thinking Outside the Box

2008-02-04T09:13:00.000-06:00

I am contiually reminded of the importance of developing empathy in my children. I so desire for them to grow up to be compassionate and unselfish, seeking to serve others--with Christ as our ultimate example. He reached out to the poor and forgotten. In our society, we get so caught up in the beautiful and successful--those who have it "together."

One of the best ways to do this, I believe, is teaching my kids about other cultures and those who are less fortunate. When we learn about other people and pray for them, I believe it helps us be less focused on "self." I wrote a post called Thinking Outside the Box that talks about a couple of books we have used. Another book we have started using is Window to the World--excellent resource to teach about countries and encourage areas to pray for. It was the winner of the Gold Medallion in 2002 for Elementary Age children.

Another way to build empathy and awareness for other cultures and peoples is through mission trips. If you ever have a chance to go or take your family--do it! This could even be helping with a Habitat for Humanity house or traveling to help hurricane victims for the weekend. It is wonderful to go on trips oversees, but there are needs all around us.

Below are some pictures of a mission trip my husband took to Kenya last year. A picture truly is worth a thousand words! Hope it inspires you to "think outside your box."

Kelly

The Danger of Replacing Self-Respect with Self-Esteem

2008-01-30T09:34:00.000-06:00

One of the most disturbing trends I see in society is a lack of respect, for ourselves and others. I am currently reading a book by Jill Rigby called, Raising Respectful Children in a Disrespectful World. In the opening she writes,

When I was growing up, people weren't perfect, but society was certainly more civil. The lines between right and wrong were clear.
Teachers were teachers. So teachers taught.
Parents were parents. So parents trained.
Kids were kids. So kids obeyed.

Respect for authority was paramount. Service to others and respect for property were natural elements of community. Teaching manners and instilling character were the cornerstones of public education. Parents looked at the right side of the report card (conduct) before they look at the left (grades). Kids got in alot more trouble if they were disrespectful to a teacher than if they made a B minus.

How did this happen? How did our society become so disrespectful? We've substituted self-esteem for self-respect, and in the process we lost our manners.

The author does not purport that the past was perfect, only that an element of civility and respectfulness has been lost. I find this to be so true. Anyone can look around and see numerous examples of disrespectfulness in attitudes, speech, and dress. The author gives the example of how students who are caught cheating or who are failing have no fear, because my dad "will handle it." Another example is when we see elderly women pushing their grocery carts with no one stopping to help.

While some might say self-esteem and self-respect are synonymous, the author defines them very differently. Self-esteem teaches children to focus on themselves and how they feel and what they want. This focus breeds greed, arrogance, insecurity, and discontentment.

Self-respect, on the other hand, focuses on others and how others feels and what others need. The author states that this perspective leads to gratitude, humility, confidence, and contentment.

I am challenged not to be conformed to this world and its focus on self and to pass this along to my children. When our children learn to respect our authority, we lay the foundation for their ability to respect the authority of God in their lives. By teaching simple manners, we model this respect and teach our children. I will write more later on the impact basic manners can have on developing self-respect, as well as displaying Christ's love to others.

What manners do you see especially lacking in society? What methods or tools do you use to teach manners to your children?

Kelly

4 Things

2008-01-28T08:44:00.000-06:00

Here is a fun meme that Jennifer tagged me for. I haven't done one since I have been back blogging, so here goes.

4 Jobs I've Had:
1. My first paid job was at age 10 when I was cast in a Mel Gibson movie-"The River" - that was filmed near my home in East Tennessee.
2. Youth ministry intern
3. Residence Director in college housing
4. College coach and professor

4 Movies Watched Over and Over:
1. The Princess Bride!!
2. Pride and Prejudice
3. Facing the Giants
4. Hoosiers

4 Places I've Lived:
1. Louisville, Kentucky
2. Knoxville, Tennessee
3. Athens, Tennessee
4. Kingsport, Tennessee

4 TV Shows I Watch:
1. 24
2. Lost
3. Little House on the Prairie (every Friday night on DVD with the kids)
4. Planet Earth from Discovery Channel (every Saturday on DVD)

4 Places I've Been:
1. New York multiple times - love that city
2. Jamaica on a mission trip--no resorts!
3. Out West
4. Through New England

4. Cities in Europe (that I would love to visit):
Paris, Rome, Venice, London

4 People who e-mail Me Regularly:
1. Hubby
2. Brother
3. Mom
4. Best friend, Crystal

4 Places I'd Rather Be:
1. I like home--so pretty content to stay where I am
2. Beach--love the ocean!
3. On a mission trip to a country I have never visited
4. On a cross-country trip out west with my family

4 Things I Look Forward to This Year:
1. Reaching my weight loss goal
2. Going on an anniversary trip with hubby
3. Homeschooling again
4. Finishing getting our house renovated

4 People to Tag:Feel free to ignore the tag if you've done it or if you don't want to do it:

Anyone in my sidebar! Let me know so I can come and visit.

Shopping for Time

2008-01-21T09:20:00.001-06:00

Don't you love to shop? For me, it's the thrill of finding that amazing deal. I love to see how far I can make my money stretch. As women we diligently search sales racks and thrift stores to use our money wisely--to be good stewards of our budgets. There is such satisfaction in this.

How much more should we not be shopping for time--being wise and diligent stewards of a precious resource that God has given us to serve Him, our families, our churches, and others. Unfortunately, we tend to attack this type of shopping with less enthusiasm and determination than we exert at Target or Gap. But I have come to realize that great savings in time will not come without concerted effort--don't we so easily waste time in a way that we would never waste our money!

This is one reason that I was intrigued by the book title, "Shopping for Time" by Carolyn Mahaney and her four daughters of girl talk. Carolyn Mahaney is the author of Feminine Appeal, a book that really challenged my as a wife and mother. This delightful book is a quick read at only about 100 pages and is packed with good practical advice on being a good steward of your time. If put into practice, their 5 key tips will certainly transform your priorities each day.

Personally, I was most challenged by tip #1--Rise Early. Carolyn and her daughters are advocates of the "5 am club," rising at 5 am for a time of prayer and study to prepare for the day. I am a fairly early riser at about 6 or 6:30, but I do my personal study in the afternoon or evening. I was sharing with my husband about the conviction I felt to rise earlier and meet with God early in the morning. So this week, I will be jumping into a new routine of rising earlier than I normally do and starting the day with Him first thing. Hopefully a full cup of hot tea will help!

If you want to read more about this great little book, check out an interview with the authors and review by Leslie from Lux Venit. She also is contributor at Tim Challies' Discerning Reader.

Kelly

Never the Same

2008-01-17T10:46:00.000-06:00

During a Bible study when I was in my church youth group many years ago, my youth pastor used an object lesson that greatly impacted me. He passed an aluminum soda can around and invited each of us to put a dent into the can. We started timidly, but by the time the can had made it all the way around the circle, it was practically flattened.

Our pastor then instructed us to pass the can back around, each of us removing the dent we had put into the can. We all sat puzzled. We started the can around, attempting to remove the dents and restore the can to its original form. It became apparent very quickly that the can would never be the same as it was before.

Our youth pastor then shared with us from the third chapter of James.

How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire! And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness. The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell. For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and sea creature, can be tamed and has been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.

Ouch! I am often reminded of this visual image of the damage our unkind words can cause. Once said, they impact others, changing them in some way. Yes, we can ask forgiveness and many times receive it; but those words may still ring in the air at times. Those words have changed someone. During times of struggle and doubt, those unkind words can surface in the back of their minds.

As women, we wield great influence over our families through our words. We can choose to encourage, cheer on, and gently correct; or we can resort to nagging, criticizing, and complaining. This is a daily choice that has eternal impact. This choice often reflects our priorities. Are we focusing on self or on serving God and others?

Our tongues are untameable in our own strength. May this instrument that is so often manipulated by Satan, be used to bring glory to God as we praise Him and seek to edify others. Because our words do have the power to change people, may the change be one that brings hope and honors Christ!

See you tomorrow for "Fit Friday."

Out of Egypt-Part 2

2008-01-16T09:39:00.001-06:00

How did I lose the weight and focus on being healthy? Well, the most important key for me was submission. I had to give up the right to my body; I had to acknowledge that everything I am is the Lord's. I had to view myself as a steward of my body--it belongs to God, and I have been given the responsibility to care for myself and use my body to glorify Him. Wrapping my mind around this central concept made the rest of the journey have purpose, therefore a bit easier in the tough times.

I believe that submitting and surrendering in this area is what enabled me to be successful. So many times we "commit" to do something, but that still places us in control. Surrender and submission yields that control to the Lord. We must come "palms down" to the Lord. Satifying self can not be the focus. So I truly believe that you apply the same Biblical principles to being physically healthy, as you do to being spiritually healthy!

So many of you wanted to know the specifics of my plan. I will outline below some of the basic principles I used over the past 8 months.

I believe that one must focus on both diet and exercise to achieve optimal health and optimal weight loss results.
I work out 5-6 times a week. Typically 30-45 minutes of cardio--step aerobics, elliptical, or treadmill. I also do 30 minutes of weight training 4 days a week--2 days on arms and 2 on legs. You may need and want to start with a more moderate program--don't overwhelm yourself or you will quit. Just try walking 15-30 minutes each day.
As far as diet, I have not followed a specific plan, but have used principles from the Zone and Weight Watchers, predominately. I try to eat 3 meals a day with 2 snacks. This keeps your metabolism up. Another helpful approach is Bob Greene's Best Life (Oprah's trainer).
A typical day might be: 1 egg omelet (w/cheese & real bacon bits) or oatmeal with brown sugar for breakfast with juice, yogurt with flaxseed meal and blueberries for mid-morning snack, salad with chicken or egg (for protein) with blue cheese dressing, an apple for afternoon snack, and chicken or fish with twice-baked potato and broccoli for dinner.
Don't be too restrictive. You need to eat enough and things you enjoy or you won't stick with it. Healthy eating is delicious--it doesn't have to be the stereotypical diet food.
Drink a lot of water! I bought a great sweat proof mug at Target that has a straw. I seem to be able to drink more with a straw.
Avoid a lot of soda and sweet tea. Notice I did not say eliminate. I enjoy both of these, so just enjoy in moderation. Make water the primary thing you drink. I am a big fan of Perrier and juice when I want a drink with some bite.
Avoid eating late a night.
Get good sleep--for me, this is 7-8 hours.

Well, these are some basic guidelines I have used.

As you look at making changes, I would encourage you to talk with your husband and/or family. Focusing on being healthy is important for everyone and the support is helpful to your success. I am blessed to have an amazing husband who has supported and encouraged me on this journey in a phenomenal way! I have enjoyed getting fit and looking healthier for him--and he has, too!

Thank you for letting me share and for your kind comments and words of encouragement. I pray that I will bless you, as you have blessed me.

Kelly

Out of Egypt, Part 1

2008-01-14T12:07:00.000-06:00

I was overwhelmed by the response to by post Friday through comments and email! I am so excited to see how God might work through each of us to encourage one another. Being fit and healthy is so important and affects so many areas of our lives. I pray that our focus will always be to bring honor to Him through our effort to be fit and healthy. While my story is one that includes weight loss, I know many of you are seeking not to lose weight, but to be eat healthier and start exercising. Wherever you fall, I am thrilled by your desire to be "fit for service." What a great gift to give our children -- being good examples of being fit and healthy.

For me, my weight and health was not an issue until after I had my children. I grew up blessed to be athletic and fit. I never had to watch what I ate very carefully (which would be a curse later as I got older!) I played lots of different sports up through playing volleyball in college and later coaching. I was even a certified aerobics instructor through my grad school years, with one of my degrees in physical education! So, you see, just because you are knowledgeable in the area of fitness or have been fit at a certain point in your life, you are not above slipping into bad habits that can suddenly lead to a place of bondage.

For many women, this does happen during the child-bearing years. Your body experiences a lot of changes, and the stress of being a new mom can make it harder to set fitness goals--there just does not seem to be the time or energy to devote to keeping in shape. Personally, I found this to be true. I let myself become a lazy eater and a sporadic exerciser. Putting on weight and acquiring bad habits can be a slippery slope. A few pounds here and there adds up--I know on my 5'10" frame, the extra weight found places to hide before I even noticed the scale going up.

The unfortunate reality is that being out of shape affects so many others areas of our lives--our marriages, our ability to be active with our children, our confidence, our attitudes, and our ability to serve, just to name of few. Being out of shape is truly like being in bondage--we are controlled by unhealthy eating and laziness. I hit a point and made a decision that I could not go on like that. No food or other distraction was worth what it was costing me to be out of shape.

When you look at our nation, most of our prominent health problems stem in part from obesity, bad eating habits, and lack of regular exercise. We truly are at a crisis point. The sad thing is that this problem is not becoming an issue for children. We are seeing health issues in children that we have never seen before. If for no other reason, get fit and healthy as an example to your children.

I have titled my posts about my weight loss journey "Out of Egypt," because I truly believe that being unhealthy and out of shape is a place of bondage that Satan desires to keep us so that we will be less effective as Christians. Because we serve an almighty God, we do not have to stay there! He desires to lead us "out of Egypt," out of a place of bondage. As the verse that my blog is based on says, "He brought me out into a spacious place, He rescued me because He delighted in me! (Psalm 18:19)"

Wednesday I will share a bit about how I lost the weight--my eating and exercise approach. This is at times "a desert experience." I will share some of the lessons that God taught me during this time.

In Christ,
Kelly

Fit for Service

2008-01-11T08:35:00.001-06:00

As many of you know, I took about 7-8 month break from blogging starting last May. One of the reasons was to focus on getting fit. After the years of giving birth to my children and the craziness of the baby and toddler years, I had really let myself go. I had become unhealthy in my eating and struggled to exercise regularly.

During the past 7-8 months, I have lost over 50 pounds--and counting! This statement is not made to bring praise to me, but rather to give God the glory for His strength that has allowed me to be successful on this journey! I am weak, and He is strong!

Let me be clear, though, that being fit is not always about losing weight. Some very thin, seemingly fit, women have very unhealthy eating habits and do not exercise. Being fit, as we will focus on here, is about being healthy!

Why is being healthy so important? I believe that it is Biblical!

Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body. (I Corinthians 6:19-20)

We are to honor God through our bodies--the vessel He has given us to serve Him through. When we are healthy and fit, we are able to serve Him more fully and with excellence. We must seek to break unhealthy habits that might prevent our effectiveness.

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. (Hebrews 12:1-3)

Next week, I will also post about my personal weight loss journey. Many of you have asked details, so I will take the time to share about that over a couple of posts during the week. Below are some before and after pictures. These are external changes; next week I will share the more important internal changes.

In Christ,
Kelly

A Pillar of Salt

2008-01-09T08:37:00.002-06:00

As I look forward to the coming year, it is hard not the look back and reflect, as well. Looking back can be good. We can remember wonderful times with our family, learn from mistakes, and rejoice in what God has done in and through us. But looking back can be dangerous, too.

I read the account in Genesis 19 of God's destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah and the grace He showed to Lot and his family at the pleading of Abraham. Angels sent by the Lord literally had to seize Lot and his family, due to their reluctance to leave. Lot and his family were instructed to escape for your life. Do not look back or stop anywhere in the valley. Escape to the hills, lest you be swept away."

But Lot's wife looked back. What was she looking at? Was she sad to leave all her "stuff?" Was she doubtful of what was going to happen? For whatever reason, her disobedience and looking back caused her to be turned into a pillar of salt.

The Lord really spoke to me through this story. We are called to leave much behind as we take up our crosses to follow Him. Sometimes we are even unaware at the sinful surroundings we have become accustomed to. We allow little things to creep in and influence us. God really challenged me to not look back, so as to not be tempted to cling to those things that He desires to save us from. What He has ahead is so much better!

Don't let Satan use the same old strongholds to bind you this year. Accept freedom and forgiveness in Christ and don't look back!

Word of God Speak

2008-01-07T09:56:00.001-06:00

One of my favorite worship songs is "Word of God Speak" by MercyMe. Don't you long to hear God speak to you? Don't you want His Word to "pour down like rain?" As the new year begins, I am one of those people who likes to set goals for the year to come-I really desire to not be in the same place at the end of the year as where I begin. If I do not reflect and purpose those goals, I seem to let time just slip away. Two of my top goals are related to the reading and memorization of scripture. I have been convicted by the Lord and inspired by others to go deeper in His word.

Hebrews 4: 12 reads:

For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.

His word is alive and speaking! In a world that sends so many anti-biblical messages, I know I must be solidly grounded in His word for direction-for myself and for my ability to minister to my family and others God places in my life.

Psalm 19:7-8 reads:

The law of the Lord is perfect, reviving the soul. The statutes of the Lord are trustworthy, making wise the simple. The precepts of the Lord are right, giving joy to the heart. The comands of the Lord are radiant, giving light to the eyes.

It is refreshing to read this when we face so much in society that preaches "no absolutes." I find it wonderful to have a solid platform on which to stand. His word is perfect, trustworthy, right--giving "light to our eyes" so that we have direction!

So as we all look to the coming, I pray that we will let the "word of God speak" into our lives and witness firsthand its transformative power!

Putting First Things First

2007-04-16T11:35:00.000-05:00

Well everyone, I have scaled back on my blogging, but still feel stretched. I need to put all my energy and focus on the central things in my life--my relationship to the Lord and my relationship and ministry to my husband and children. I covet your prayers as I am also going through a job transition and preparing to move into the house my husband is remodeling for us (so excited!) Therefore, I am going on an extended break from posting here.

Thank you for your encouragement and giving me feedback on my thoughts and writing. I look forward to having more time to write some time in the future, but until then, many blessings to you. May we all keep Christ first in all and may He be glorified in our lives!

(I am posting at CWO blog today, and will do that occasionally in the coming months.)

The Lord Builds the House

2007-04-08T23:22:00.000-05:00

For Children's Book Monday, I want to tell you about a wonderful book we recently purchased called The Lord Builds the House by Johannah Bluedorn. Johannah is a homeschooled author and illustrator of children's books. Her illustrations remind me of the work of an all-time favorite author/illustrator, Tasha Tudor.

This particular book contains gorgeous, "I can look at over and over again" illustrations to the text of Psalm 127. Not only will you and your children love exploring the details of the pictures, you are teaching them to love the beauty and message of scripture--it really comes alive for them.

You can check out this book and others at triviumpursuit.com. Don't forget to check out other Children's Book Monday selections at A Path Made Straight.

The Greatest Love Story Ever Told

2007-04-05T23:21:00.001-05:00

Please don't miss this powerful photo montage set to one of my favorite songs, "Why" by Nichole Nordeman. We are part of the greatest love story ever told-how amazing is His grace! Blessings this Easter weekend.

Coherent Thoughts

2007-04-05T08:48:00.000-05:00

I am so glad to know that some of my thoughts are coherent--some days I feel rather scattered! My friends at One Day More, Home Is Where The Heart Is, For Such A Time is This, and Remain In The Vine have dubbed me a "Thinking Blogger." Cyndi, Jenny, and Deidre are daily reads and some of my favorite thinking bloggers who encourage me to a deeper walk with Christ with their insights. Brenda is a new blog "discovery" for me-I have enjoyed her reflective posts and look forward to visiting her more in the future. Thank you so much ladies! I am grateful that my thoughts have challenged and encouraged you--I give Him the glory, for I myself have nothing to offer you!

Now to the hard part! I have so many blogs that I look forward to reading and learn from. Here are just a few (in addition to the amazing ladies above) that are especially talented writers/thinkers:

Come To The Table-Chris has been such a blessing to me! As a fellow minister's wife with a bit more experience, she has encouraged me greatly with her wisdom. Through her blog and our emailing, I have come to know a woman who is striving to serve the Lord and who is real. ( I think being a mother of five breaks down a lot of pretense!)

A Path Made Straight-Elise is a gem-such wisdom and eloquence in her posts. Elise is a very talented writer that sees our extraordinary God in the ordinary occurrences in everyday life. Her perceptive posts are a blessing to read, and she shares my love of great children's literature (hosting Children's Book Monday).

Embracing My Cup-Erin was one of the first blogs where I thought, "This girl needs to be a writer!" She is another blogger whose reflective posts on being a wife and mom seeking to serve the Lord bring encouragement and challenge.

Snapshot-Jennifer is definitely a thinker. She spits out informative, perceptive, and fun posts right and left. Her blog is one stop shopping for Biblical reflection & challenge, literature reviews, life lessons, and just plain great writing.

Lisa Writes-Lisa is a breath of fresh air with her honest reflections about being a follower of Christ, wife, and mother. Lisa is another blogger with great writing ability. Great writing typically comes from great thinking and reflecting!

If I have tagged you, here are your instructions:

Write a post with links to 5 blogs that make you think.Link to this post so that people can easily find the exact origin of the meme,Optional: Proudly display the ‘Thinking Blogger Award’ with the link to the post that you wrote.

Blessings!

Masks We Wear

2007-04-03T23:50:00.000-05:00

Today I am posting at the CWO team blog, Jehovah Java, about the masks we wear as women. Please join me--I would love to hear your personal comments!

Thinking Outside Our Box

2007-04-02T08:44:00.000-05:00

For Children's Book Monday, hosted by Elise at A Path Made Straight, I will highlight two books that you can share with your children about other peoples and cultures around the world. In America, we live rather egocentric lives on the whole. The world can seem to revolve around our culture. As Christians, I believe it is so important to teach our children about people around the world, to pray for those people and the missionaries sent to bring them the gospel of Christ. We want them to "think outside their box." Through this focus on others, we teach to follow Christ's example of compassion and service to others.

All the Children of the World by Karen Mesek Leimert is a book that highlights twelve children from various countries, in addition to the United States. It describes how they live and important cultural distinctions, giving parents a great starting point for discussion. The illustrations are amazing, as well! You may find a new copy at biblio.com or search for a used copy at amazon.com. I found mine at the used book store.

From Abeku to Zapotec by June Hathersmith is a book that we read a part of the Sonlight Curriculum. The subtitle is "a book of Bibleless peoples." From A to Z, it highlights 26 peoples around the world that still do not have the Bible translated into their language, from the Abeku and Zapotec peoples to the Kulango and Safwa peoples. It gives a brief description of the people accompanied by beautiful illustrations by Alice Roder.

Blessings!

My Banner Will Be Clear

2007-03-31T02:12:00.000-05:00

Each year the university where I teach gives students the opportunity to go on missions trips in the US and all over the world--from Tanzania to Thailand to Illinois to Guatemala. This year, over 20 mission teams will be sent out. These are invaluable experiences for our students to learn to serve and share their faith. One comment I hear often upon their return is how much passion and commitment they see in Christians all over the world. Sadly in the US, we have much to distract us from our calling and purpose in Christ.

I do not want to be distracted, but committed passionately to Him. As the song goes, "I want a true and holy passion . . . I want to know and follow hard after Him!"

Below is something many of you might have read before. It is a challenging reminder to pursue Him passionately - may "our banner be clear" when He returns!

I’m part of the fellowship of the unashamed. I have Holy Spirit power. The die has been cast. I have stepped over the line. The decision has been made. I’m a disciple of His. I won’t look back, let up, slow down, back away, or be still.

My past is redeemed, my present makes sense, my future is secure. I’m finished and done with low living, sight walking, small planning, smooth knees, colorless dreams, tamed visions, mundane talking, cheap living, and dwarfed goals.

I no longer need pre-eminence, prosperity, position, promotions, plaudits, or popularity. I don’t have to be right, first, tops, recognized, praised, regarded, or rewarded. I now live by faith, lean on His presence, walk by patience, lift by prayer, and labor by power.

My face is set, my gait is fast, my goal is heaven my road is narrow, my way rough, my companions few, my guide reliable, my mission clear. I cannot be bought, compromised, detoured, lured away, turned back, deluded or delayed. I will not flinch in the face of sacrifice, hesitate in the presence of the adversary, negotiate at the table of the enemy, ponder at the pool of popularity, or meander in the maze of mediocrity.

I won’t give up, shut up, let up, until I have stayed up, stored up, prayed up, paid up, preached up for the cause of Christ. I am a disciple of Jesus. I must go till He comes, give till I drop, preach till all know, and work till He stops me. And when He comes for His own, He will have no problems recognizing me - my banner will be clear!

(Written by a young African pastor and tacked on the wall of his house.)

Blessings!

Adele & Simon

2007-03-25T22:38:00.000-05:00

For Children's Book Monday hosted by Elise at A Path Made Straight, I have chosen to highlight Adele & Simon. I discovered this book as I searched for Christmas books for my children. As soon as I saw this one, I knew my daughter would love it.

It is the story of a Adele and her little brother, Simon, walking home from school. Simon is a curious little boy who loses things along the way--coat, scarf, crayons, hat, etc. On each page, you can search for what he has lost.

The pictures by Barbara McClintock (one of my favorite illustrators) are amazing--beautifully rich and detailed with an old-fashioned charm and water color quality. Also, you will get a great lesson about Paris. Adele and Simon's walk home carries them through familiar areas and landmarks of the city with notes in the back about each.

The Price of Privilege

2007-03-23T02:21:00.000-05:00

Hi friends. I would like to ask for your prayers for my husband's family-his grandmother passed away this week. We will be traveling this weekend to the funeral.

My post for Jehovah Java, titled "The Price of Privilege," will be posted Saturday if you are interested.

Blessings!

Change

2007-03-20T23:23:00.000-05:00

I have never been a huge fan of change. I like tradition, consistency, and steadiness. While I do enjoy adventure and new experiences, I prefer them in intermittent, controlled doses--not the upheaval of unexpected, unwelcome change that can often occur in life. I think that is one of the reasons I love to read so much--experiencing different ideas, places, and stories from the comfort of my cozy chair.

Part of this is very much a female thing. In Bringing Up Boys, Dr. James Dobson describes a woman's tendency and preference for stability and a man's inclination toward adventure. To me this is not saying that women don't like new and adventurous experiences--I would be the first to sign up for a back-packing trip across Europe or a safari in Africa. I just want to be able to return to the familiar rhythm of everyday life at home afterwards. It's that nesting instinct that is the "home-making" gene we carry.

I do know, though, that the Lord has used "change" tremendously is my life to grow and teach me. I had to be removed from my comfort zone to prevent me from becoming stagnant.

Change.
We love it. We hate it. It is good. It is bad. It is easy. It is difficult. It makes us vulnerable. It gives us confidence. It shakes our very foundation. It grows our sense of security. It stretches us. It causes us to withdraw. It is frightening. It is refreshing.
Change is challenging. Change brings a creative flow of feelings and experiences that give life more quality. Change brings new perspectives. Change teaches us. Change….
Change is an inevitable part of life.
--Ann Kiemel Anderson

So while change can bring discomfort, anxiety and many other unwelcome feelings, we can take solace in the the fact that God is refining us through these changes and "bringing all things together for good." Change brings a clearer perspective, often times when things we have come to depend on have been stripped away. We are driven to declare our dependence on Him alone. I can now look back with gratitude at these times of change.

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In relation to parenting, I believe that this is so important to model to our children--dealing with change. In working with college students, I encounter many that have no ability to deal with change. If they are not in control or having their circumstances controlled by their parents, many can't cope with dealing with life and the many changes that they are experiencing or will experience. They seem to either spiral out of control or shut down.

My husband and I strive to respond in obedience and faith to the changes that God brings into our lives, and pray that our children will see that change is inevitable, but that we do have a stability and security in Christ. There is no need to fear change--He is in control, thankfully not us!

So the next time you are facing a big change in life, be challenged to ask God what He might be desiring for you to learn from it. Meet change with obedience and faith!

The Fourteen Bears

2007-03-18T21:05:00.000-05:00

Children's Book Monday is official now! Elise at A Path Made Straight has put up a Mr. Linky so that we all can join in and visit each other on Mondays. So come share your favorites--I've already discovered new books to share with my children.

This week I am sharing a book that I discovered and bought my daughter this past Christmas. It has quickly moved up our list of favorites! The Fourteen Bears in Summer and Winter by Evelyn Scott is a book back in print after being out of print for decades. It is the sweet story of a father and mother bear and their twelve bear cubs. It is full of detailed, colorful illustrations that are so fun to "explore" with your kids. Your children will even learn a few nature lessons along the way. Just a charming book!

Putting on Armor

2007-03-15T00:33:00.000-05:00

Finally, Be strong in the Lord and the in the strength of His Might.
Lord, I feel so weak, I so desperately need your strength. May you be glorified in my weakness-the days where I am not patient or kind.
Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.
Lord, I need your guidance and protection. My enemies overwhelm me--pride, selfishness, busyness, frustration, instant gratification. May I have courage to fight this spiritual war.
Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm.
Lord, I will clothe myself in your grace and love that I be able to stand for you even when the world seeks to move me. May I persevere until the end.
Stand therefore, having fastened on the belt of truth,
May no gossip or false words cross my lips. May honesty and sincerity gird my efforts.
and having put on the breastplate of righteousness,
May the righteousness of Christ strengthen my heart.
and, as shoes for your feet, having put on the readiness given by the

gospel of peace.
May I abound in the knowledge of the gospel which inspires obedience, even during struggles.
In all circumstances take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming darts of the evil one;
When Satan attacks and tempts me, I seek shelter behind the shield of your grace and place my hope in the sacrifice and redemption through my Savior Jesus Christ.
and take the helmet of salvation,
I will not believe the lies of the enemy for we are more than conquerors through Christ

who is victorious over sin.

and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God,
I strive for diligence in hiding your word in my heart, the word is a weapon that can slay the lies and deceptions of the enemy through skillful knowledge and use.
praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication.
To that end keep alert with all perseverance, making supplication for all the saints, and also for me, that words may be given to me in opening my mouth boldly to proclaim the mystery of the gospel, for which I am an ambassador in chains, that I may declare it boldly, as I ought to speak.
May I pray boldly in the Spirit for personal strength, but also for fellow believers.

--from Ephesians 6:10-20 and my heart

Spend Yourself

2007-03-12T00:31:00.000-05:00

Today I am posting at the CWO team blog, Jehovah Java. So come visit as I share about "spending yourself."

Firecracker Daughters

2007-03-12T00:16:00.000-05:00

I have an adorable, energetic daughter. As she was growing up through the toddler and preschool years, more than one family member said- "Boy, she's a firecracker." My husband and I could not have agreed more! She was in sharp contrast to her calmer, more reserved older brother. While we continue to help her learn to channel her spunk, she has grown so much in the past few years. My children's book selection this week has been one of her favorites since she was two--she could quote it while I read! I think she saw a bit of herself in Mad Maddie Maxwell.

Mad Maddie Maxwell is the story of a preschooler who learns her lesson about getting angry and jumping to conclusions. The story is told in rhyming verse and lots of repetition, making it perfect for the under 5 crowd. Good lessons on self-control, selfishness, and forgiveness.

Check out Elise at A Path Made Straight for more Children's Book Monday.

Ordinary Days

2007-03-08T09:46:00.000-06:00

I just had a few minutes to read a couple of nights ago, and picked up a book on my 2007 reading list called Ordinary Days: Family Life in a Farmhouse, a collection of stories about family life by Dorcas Smucker, a fellow blogger. I could not put it down over the past two days--I have not enjoyed a book this much in a while. In the introduction, Dorcas writes:

My relatives were wonderful storytellers. Fertsayluh they called it in Pennsylvania German-the art of spinning tales and of seeing the quirky and unusual in the most ordinary events. . . This book is a collection of stories about our lives, telling the simple blessings and ordinary days. . . I hope they will echo in your own life, reminding you of family times, lessons learned, and God's loving touch on all of us.

Dorcas Smucker truly carries on the family tradition of wonderful storytelling. Her keen eye of observation to the moments and happenings of life is beautifully translated through her writing. This was such an enjoyable read! It challenged me to slow down and savor the flow of everyday life--we pass up so many opportunities for God to bless and reveal himself to us because we are so busy.

A few of my favorite stories:

"Just Like Mom"-beautiful reflections on the connections between mothers and daughters over generations.

"Christmas Memories"-that memories will just happen as we are focusing on the message of the love and redemption brought through Christ--maybe we don't need to try so hard.

"An Irrelevant Generation"-how we must be careful not to make the older generation feel "irrelevant" and miss out on the priceless treasures they have to offer us and our children.

Don't miss out on these stories. I felt like I was sitting at the kitchen table or on the front porch listening to a friend share. There is such power in a story, making us often see things more clearly in our lives. I think this is why Jesus used stories to teach. Through the parables, He taught many profound truths, helping us understand and relate. May we slow down and pay attention to the blessings and lessons of "ordinary life"--which when following Christ, are nothing less than extraordinary.

Prioritizing

2007-03-05T09:26:00.000-06:00

At certain times in our lives, we must take a step back and make sure our priorities are where they need to be. While I love sharing my thoughts through blogging, it seems to be eating up more time than I can sacrifice during this time in my life. I have a lot on my plate and need to put more focus other places.

Therefore over the next few months I will be cutting back on my posting. I still plan to continue posting "Children's Book Monday," as well as posting once or twice a week additionally. So if you are a daily visitor, just check in weekly with me instead. I hope you guys stick with me!

I will also be blogging twice a month at Jehovah Java, the CWO team blog--I will be there the 12th and 24th of this month.

Blessings!

The Charm of Maple Hill Farm

2007-03-05T00:14:00.000-06:00

If you have not already visited the world of Maple Hill Farm, you are in for a treat. Two books we have particularly enjoyed around our house have been The Year at Maple Hill Farm and Our Animal Friends at Maple Hill Farm by the Caldecott-winning of Martina and Alice Provenson. These books are wonderful stories with beautiful, detailed illustrations.

The Year at Maple Hill Farm follows the goings-on at Maple Hill Farm for each month of the year, providing a great introduction to farm life and seasons. You have to pay close attention to the illustrations for lots of fun detail that could be missed.

Our Animal Friends goes into more detail with each different type of farm animal and how they are cared for, and so on. There are lots of great learning points and more great pictures. So don't miss out on the wonderful charm of Maple Hill Farm!

What Do You See in the Mirror?-part 2

2007-02-27T01:39:00.000-06:00

It seems that this issue really hits a chord with women. I am so glad that many of you were encouraged by my summary of Chip Ingram's study on this topic. I will finish up where I left on last week.

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But just knowing the truth about how God sees us isn’t enough and doesn’t change your life.

We must BELIEVE GOD’S VIEW IS TRUE

Hebrews 11:1 “Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of
what we do not see.”

Can you imagine what would happen if you believe it is true?

Three things to help us believe:

1) Faith is built on God’s word

Hebrews 10:17 “Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God.”

When you expose yourself to the Word of God, faith grows.

2) Faith grows when you renew your mind.

Romans 12:2 “Do not be conformed to this world, but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

We must be conscious of how we spend our time. We can waste so much time on worldly endeavors. Instead, spend that time learning God’s view of you through Bible study and memorizing scripture and you’ll be transformed.

There are 168 hours in every week.
1 hour of church vs 167 hours of the world’s impact
Which is going to influence you more?

Develop a plan to remove the distorted mirrors in your life and replace them with the mirrors of God’s word. Affirmations from God’s Word & praying God’s Word.

Ways we can celebrate the unique person God has made us to be:

1) Unwrap your spiritual gift
I Corinthians 12:4-10
Every believer has at least one. It is incredible to see what happens when God uses those gifts to touch lives.

2) Use Your God-given Talents
Exodus 31:3
“I have filled him with the Spirit of God, with skill, ability and knowledge in all kinds of crafts, to make artistic designs for work in gold, silver, and bronze, to cut and set stones, to work in wood, and to engage in a all kinds of craftsmanship.

Different talents
- Many of you bury them.
- Sometimes you don’t see it as a talent, but it is unique and somebody needs it.
- Just make them available.

3) Leverage Your Past Experience
Romans 8:28
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.

Parenting. Divorce. Cancer. Sexual abuse. Miscarriage. Etc.
God doesn’t waste pain.

II Corinthians 1: 26-31 -- The comfort and grace God gave you through your pain,
He wants you to use that for others.

God usually works in our weaknesses. Do we most often respond to someone who says, “Hey, I can’t help you with this” or someone who has experienced it and shares from personal experience?

Let’s move beyond our gates of safety and give it away. Get focused on others. Ministry is how God makes what’s true of us, true in us.

Loving others is the key.
Gallop poll:
Only 10% of laymen in churches are using their gifts in church.
50% have no interest in doing so.

So in brief review:
Your plan:
1) Refuse to believe you are inferior.
2) Fill your mind with how God sees you (Scripture).
3) Jump in and give to others.

Miss Suzy Has Captured Our Hearts

2007-02-25T23:53:00.000-06:00

I am joining Elise at A Path Made Straight again today for Children's Book Monday. My Mondays will be easy to fill for a long time to come--there are so many wonderful books out there to talk about!

One of my favorite, most memorable books growing up was Miss Suzy by Miriam Young and illustrated by Arnold Lobel of "Frog and Toad" fame. This charming book was written over 40 years ago, and was out of print for awhile. It was re-published in 2004 and I snatched it up as fast as I could!

Miss Suzy is the story of an adorable brown squirrel driven from her simple, but cozy tree home by a group of bully squirrels. She seeks refuge in the attic of a nearby house and makes a new home in a dollhouse there, while also making some new friends. Even so, she still longs for her tree home. The ending of the tale brings in themes of friendship, bravery, and contentment.

This book now is one of my children's favorites--its appeal seems to reach across generations. This is one of the most requested books in our home, and I certainly love to read it, since it is one of my favorites. Don't miss out on this simple story with beautiful illustrations!

What Do You See in the Mirror?

2007-02-23T09:23:00.000-06:00

Our culture is obsessed with appearances-of all kinds. Image seems to be all that matters, and it is so frustrating for parents seeking to teach daughters (and sons) about the true source of their worth. It has gotten so bad that even secular studies are showing the harm that these images cause girls.

Lately, my five-year-old daughter has become increasingly aware of what she looks like and what she wears. She has become concerned at points on what other people will say about her appearance. I can't believe she is already starting to think about those things. At five, I was clueless--of course, most of the clothing sold for girls now would have alarmed most parents when I was a child. Inch by inch, standards have eroded, and over time the effect on young girls growing up has been devastating. Parenting and teaching in this area must be very purposeful to help our daughters fight these terrible lies that Satan uses to debilitate women.

I was reminded of a study I participated by Chip Ingram on self-image, and thought I would share some great application for this topic.

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It is important to realize that self-image, how we view ourselves, is important. A study of 5- and 6-yr-olds showed how they viewed themselves was a higher determinant of success than IQ. How each of us views ourselves is pivotal in the quality of our lives and the quality of of our ability to serve the Lord. We all struggle with questions such as:
Who I am?

Where do I belong?

Am I significant?

Am I ok?

What do people think of me?

Chip points out that many times we see ourselves as if we are looking through those distorted mirrors at carnivals and county fairs. Three specific distorted mirrors he describes are:

1. APPEARANCE MIRROR
“my value depends on how I look”
2. PERFORMANCE MIRROR
“my value depends on what I can do”
3. STATUS MIRROR
“my value depends on what people think of me”

Until we see ourselves as God sees us, we are destined to feel inferior.

Until we can get away from basing our value on how we look, how good we are, and what others think of us, we are destined to feel inferior. We must see myself as God sees us. We don’t have to be in bondage to the distorted mirrors of our world. Chip describes how we can learn to see ourselves through God's eyes.

How do we see ourselves in the way God sees us?

1. KNOWLEDGE
See God’s view of you- His perspective.

a. You are UNIQUE!
Genesis 1:27 “God created man in His own image

Psalm 139:13-14 “For You created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb, I praise you because I am
Fearfully and wonderfully made.”

You one in 6 billion
Your DNA is different from everyone else on this earth
Unique

An artist paints an original piece of art and then prints are made.
God didn’t make prints.
You are an original!

b. You are LOVED!

Jeremiah 31:3 “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness”.

I have to accept God’s love all the time, knowing that He knows everything about me and still loves me

No one can make me accept it; it is a step of faith.

c. You are VALUABLE!

1 Corinthians 6:20 “ you are not you own; you were bought with a price”

We are all slaves—slaves to sin-- destined to eternity without God
But were bought and paid for by the blood of Jesus Christ

d. You are SECURE!

Ephesians 1:13 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, your were marked in Him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit.”

Because of Christ’s death on the cross, we can be secure for eternity if we believe in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior.

When buying a house, you have to put down “earnest money” or a deposit to secure the house-
Jesus was our earnest money for all eternity.

e. You are INDISPENSABLE!

Ephesians 4: 11-13 (different gifts)

Ephesians 2:10 “For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God has prepared in advance for us to do.”

God has a plan to touch people in this world and YOU are the one to do it!

You are important and have a special assignment on this earth-and it doesn’t depend on how smart or how beautiful you are.

But just knowing the truth isn’t enough and doesn’t change your life.

I will continue these thoughts next time, as this post is getting rather long!

I Never

2007-02-22T23:14:00.000-06:00

I have been tagged by Kim at Mercy Days for this unique meme. Please feel free to join in and learn some little known facts about your blog friends!

1. Which dramatic role have I never had?
a. Rumpelstiltskin, title role, 4th grade skit
b. Amaryllis, piano lesson girl in "The Music Man", 6th grade, community musical
c Fairy in "Dance of the Swan" , 3rd grade ballet
d. Emily in "Our Town," high school

Well, I have never had any of these roles, but was quite involved in community theater from the ages of 10-16, in plays like Annie, Sound of Music, and The Wizard of Oz. I developed this dramatic interest after being cast in The River, a movie with Mel Gibson and Sissy Spacek, when I was in the fifth grade.

2. On which athletic team did I never compete?
a. softball
b. field hockey
c. tennis
d. swimming

I have never competed in field hockey (we don't do field hockey in the south) or swimming, and just softball and tennis recreationally. I played volleyball and basketball growing up and went on to play volleyball in college. I love volleyball!

3. What kind of lessons have I never taken?
a. piano
b. riding
c. tap dance
d. etiquette

I have never taken riding lessons, but need to. I always seem to get the wild horses on trail rides!

4. Which type of vehicle have I never driven?
a. stick shift car
b. dirt bike
c. pickup truck
d. ATV

I have never ridden a dirt bike, but am guessing that is in my future. My husband grew up riding them and is itching to buy one for our son (and himself!)

5. What is my favorite genre of literature?
a. historical fiction
b. science fiction
c. romantic fiction
d. nonfiction

This is tough! I would say it is a close call between historical fiction and nonfiction. Since college, I have read a lot more nonfiction, but am re-discovering the enjoyment of great fiction.

Have a wonderful weekend ladies!

The Sandpaper Strategy

2007-02-22T00:59:00.000-06:00

Do you have those people in your life that are just tough to love and deal with? I certainly do! I struggle at times ministering to many of the college students that I work with, and even at times, my family and friends. It is hard to practice patience and kindness to those challenging people in our lives. It can be easy to try to insulate ourselves from these people and surround ourselves with people we enjoy - usually people that make us feel good.

In my study this week in Living Beyond Yourself, God really challenged me through one of my favorite passages of scripture in James 1. God's word teaches us that trials and difficulties refine us and produce steadfastness or patience which helps complete what is lacking in us.

Beth Moore describes those tough relationships like sandpaper rubbing together. It is uncomfortable and rough, but with time and consistent contact, will smooth out. God uses that friction in our lives to grow us. My first reaction is to avoid that discomfort, but God is revealing to me that I am called to connect with those frustrating people He places in my path for their growth, as well as mine.

Join me in applying God's "sandpaper strategy" to your life. Can you think of that person God has placed in your life that is a big challenge for you? Do not run from this opportunity for you to be "made complete, lacking nothing."

The Genius of Peter Spier

2007-02-18T21:20:00.000-06:00

Following the lead from my new blog friend, Elise at A Path Made Straight, I will be posting on one of my favorite children's books each Monday. When I saw this on Elise's blog, I just loved the idea--and immediately asked if she would mind if I joined in. If you book lovers out there would like to join us, please do! I love discovering new books to share with my children, and enjoy myself! If you post, please let us know so we can visit.

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My first Children's Book Monday selection comes from one of my *favorite* illustrators, Peter Spier. You can truly get lost in his pictures with the exquisite detail he is known for. The majority of his books are wordless--you can tell the story yourself, and I promise you will find new things you never noticed before each time you "read" his books

Noah's Ark won the 1978 Caldecott Medal, and it is easy to see why. I was lucky to find this book in hardback at an outlet store shortly after my son was born. It is been one of our favorites, especially since my son has been a huge animal fan since he was tiny. He pored over this book and loved using this book to draw his own animal pictures. It is also great because it remains faithful to scripture.

If you enjoy this book, don't stop there--check out his other books at amazon.com. Some are out of print, but you can find a used book seller to purchase from. I have bought three Peter Spier books this way.

Other selections we enjoy include:

Christmas

The Star-Spangled Banner

We The People

There are others I have not gotten, but they are on my wish list! So enjoy your Monday and make sure a curl up with your children and a good book.

My Thirteenth Tale

2007-02-15T10:33:00.000-06:00

Last week I finished The Thirteenth Tale by Diane Setterfield, a book that has received comparisons to the writings of the Bronte sisters. I thoroughly enjoyed this book! For me a good fiction book brings me inside its pages so that when I put it down, I am a bit disoriented as to where I am after being so absorbed in the story. Also, a great book by my definition brings reflection. The Thirteenth Tale would definitely qualify on these points. I am no literary critic, but will share some reflections on this intriguing tale.

The story revolves around two women and their stories. Vida Winter is a world famous British author who has never revealed her true personal story, always chooses to tell a story when interviewed over the years. As she is growing older and failing in her health, she chooses an obscure biographer named Margaret Lea to pen her biography. Margaret lives and works in a small, bookstore specializing in old books, run by her father. Margaret is an avid, passionate reader, living a rather isolated existence with only her father and books to keep her company. I will not go into any more details--you need to read it for yourself! What follows, though, is the story of the growth of Vida and Margaret's relationship as Vida shares her haunting, often disturbing story. Both women have pasts they confront and truths they finally acknowledge.

My gripe is not with lovers of the truth but with truth herself. What succor, what consolation is there in truth, compared to a good story? What good is truth, at midnight, in the dark, when the wind is roaring like a bear in the chimney? What you need are the plump comforts of a story. The soothing, rocking safety of a lie.
--Vida Winter

"The Thirteenth Tale" came to represent to me Vida's truth--her true story. As stated in the quote above, Vida avoided the painful truth and chose instead to live in a world of stories that could be fashioned as she wished. The reality of this path is she could not change the truth of her past, it remained the same and was always with her. Crafted personal stories can bring a soothing comfort in the midst of pain, which may be beneficial at times. As a substitute for the truth, though, stories do not suffice.

This book made me think, "What will be my thirteenth tale, my true story?" At the end of my life, how will my story read? Am I living in truth, embracing my past, present, and future in the light of God's sovereignty in my life? I am striving to live in truth and without regrets. I pray that my thirteenth tale will be one of joy, in the struggles, as well as the blessings.

This book also reminded me of the deep pain that is suffered by so many people and how that scars and impacts their lives. I felt deeply convicted that I do not seek to minister to those people as I believe I am called to do. As Christians, we must not shrink from the ugliness that is in our world, but try to shine the healing light of Christ in those very difficult situations.

Palms Down or Palms Up

2007-02-13T09:10:00.000-06:00

I don't know about everyone else, but I like to hold on to things. I like to have control over my life. I like stability and avoid uncertainty. I have found this to be true of most women--we tend to be nest-makers, while our men tend to be adventure-seekers. I believe that these desires are part of God's design, but like so many things can be manipulated by Satan to bring defeat into our lives.

I am reading The Practice of Godliness by Jerry Bridges, which is proving to be an instrument that God is using to refine me and challenge me. I have been uniquely impacted by the concept of training in godliness. Coming from a rich athletic background, I have always been drawn to illustrations of physical training and how the same concepts apply to spiritual growth and training.

Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.
--Hebrews 12:1-2

I want to run with endurance the race set before me, but I must first lay aside those things hold me back. This is so hard sometimes, letting go. Jerry Bridges states that one of the principles of training is the cost of commitment. He writes:

There is a price to godliness, and godliness is never on sale. It never comes cheaply or easily. The verb "train," which Paul deliberately chose, implies persevering, painstaking, diligent effort. He was well aware of the total commitment those young athletes made to win a crown that would not last. And as he thought of the crown that would last-the godliness that has value for all things, both in the present life and the life to some-he urged Timothy, and he urges us today, to make the kind of commitment necessary to train ourselves to be godly.

God is challenging me that I must make the choice, the commitment, to give up those things in my life that prevent me from running with endurance. I would take this a step further, to use the word surrender. With surrender there is a complete release or letting go. When we hold things palms up, we can always take them back. If you let go of something with palms down, once it is released, you can not hold on to it. This type of complete surrender is what is required of us. Are your palms facing up or down? Is there anything God is calling you to let go of, so that you may run with endurance the race He has set before you?

I Am

2007-02-11T22:17:00.000-06:00

I recently posted Where I Am From and have enjoyed reading as several of you have posted your own version. Owlhaven has posted a new writing template that is similar called, "I Am." Once again I would love for you to let me know if you decide to post so I can read yours. It is such a creative way to express yourself and learn about each other.

I Am

I am the baby born in Kentucky to a seminary student

and high school teacher & coach

Who almost lost me to pneumonia at age two.

I am the child who played Wonder Woman, detective, sports, and dolls.

Who loved to put on shows with my brother and cousins

and loved to run through sprinklers and make mudpies-for real!

Who stored notes from my brother in my treasure box.

Who dreamed of being an ice skater like Dorothy Hamill

and never thought she would actually get to be in a movie.

I am the teenager who liked hanging out with my family.

Who wore parachute pants and jelly shoes and

loved my youth group and hated cliques in school.

Who dreamed of making an impact and knew she would be in ministry.

I am the woman who loved the college experience, playing volleyball,

and building relationships of depth.

Who loves my Savior and my family

and my ministry to college students.

I am the mother who loves reading to my kids and

whose moments of perfect bliss come when I get to cuddle

with my kids after their bath with freshly shampooed hair.

I am the teacher who loves schedules and

avoids (okay- procrastinates) things that bore me.

I am the woman who reflects and plans and obsesses, at times.

I am the person who desires change and growth

and then encounters frustrating bumps along the way.

I am the woman who still loves autumn days & summer evenings,

staring at the ocean, and the smell of rain and books.

Who still longs to learn at the feet of my Savior.

I am the person who dreams of walking on the beach with my husband

on our 50 year anniversary and living with purpose and without regret.

I am grateful for my spiritual heritage and grace.

And I am the woman who hopes that her children

will rise up and call her blessed.

The Cold Within

2007-02-08T09:07:00.000-06:00

The Cold Within

by James Patrick Kinney

Six humans trapped by happenstance

in black and bitter cold

Each possessed a stick of wood,

Or so the story's told.

Their dying fire in need of logs,

the first woman held hers back.

For on the faces around the fire

She noticed one was black.

The next man looking 'cross the way

Saw one not of his church

And couldn't bring himself to give

The fire his stick of birch.

The third one sat in tattered clothes

He gave his coat a hitch,

Why should his log be put to use

To warm the idle rich?

The rich man just sat back and thought

Of the wealth he had in store,

And how to keep what he had earned

From the lazy, shiftless poor.

The black man's face bespoke revenge

As the fire passed from his sight,

For all he saw in his stick of wood

Was a chance to spite the white.

And the last man of this forlorn group

Did naught except for gain,

Giving only to those who gave

Was how he played the game.

The logs held tight in death's stilled hands

Was proof of human sin,

They didn't die from the cold without,

They died from the cold within.

I am studying the Fruit of the Spirit through the Living Beyond Yourself study by Beth Moore. This past week I learned so much about joy. One aspect of joy that really hit me was that God wants us to experience joy through the body of Christ--to minister to and be ministered to brings joy! So many times I allow my busyness or selfishness get in the way of being a joy to those around me.

Sadly we can see this disconnect everywhere in our culture. We need those connections, we are designed for relationship. If you stop and look, people are dying inside all around us from "the cold within." May we strive to reach out to bring joy to the body of Christ and to those searching desperately for connection and love.

You have given me a great joy and encouragement, because you, brother (or sister), have refreshed the hearts of the saints.
--Philemon 7

Amazing Grace

2007-02-06T22:50:00.001-06:00

Here is the movie trailer of the upcoming movie "Amazing Grace" to be released February 23rd. It is the story of William Wilberforce, an Evangelical Christian converted under the ministry of John Wesley in England, who was largely responsible for the campaign to abolish slavery in Britain in 1807. This action led ultimately to the United States looking at this shameful issue. The movie takes the title from the hymn written by John Newton, a friend and mentor of William Wilberforce.

In an age where so many people attack Christianity, it is wonderful to see the story of a hero of the faith depicted in a movie. While I have not seen the movie, it is getting endorsements from groups such as Focus on the Family and the Association for Christian Colleges and Universities. Visit the movie website at amazinggracemovie.com to see if it is coming to a city near you. These are the heroes that I want my children to learn and read about.

Do Not Be Deceived-This Applies to You & Me

2007-02-05T09:11:00.000-06:00

Last year I read a book by Shaunti Feldhahn called For Women Only: What You need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men. This was quite an eye-opening book that presented ideas based on a survey of 400 men. My husband and I talk very openly about issues in our marriage and in life, so I thought I had a pretty good handle on this topic, but I learned several new things. My husband read the book, as well, and was amazed how much insight the author had. He said every woman should read this book. Interestingly, I read where a church in Georgia purchased and gave every woman a copy.

One concept that was particularly powerful for me was the idea that men have a visual Rolodex of images. The author states that men literally store images in their mind--once it has been stored, can pop up at any time, even when a man does not want it. Eighty-seven percent of the men polled said that these "pop-ups" happen to them. Therefore, men are constantly put in the position to choose to look at the image or close it down, if you will. This has to be exhausting! Most women do not understand this--we do not store images in this way. And they certainly don't just "pop up" uninvited.

Given this idea, you can totally understand the problem our country has with pornography and the danger it presents to the men in our life. They are bombarded with images from every side and angle, and our lack of understanding on this issue makes it worse. My new blog friend, Kelly at Party of Five, shared about a series her church is doing called Pure Sex. This post along with an article on Clay Crosse, Christian recording artist who struggled with pornography, in the current Home Life magazine really got me thinking about the problem of pornography in our culture. Here are some startling statistics on pornography.

Pornography industry grosses $12 billion in the US, and $57 billion worldwide (more than Microsoft)
There are 800 million adult videos and DVDs rented each year.
72 million Internet users visit pornographic web sites each year.
80% of 15- to 17-year-olds have had multiple exposures to hard-core pornography.
The average age of first exposure to pornography is eleven!
The largest consumer of Internet porn is the 12-to17-year-old age group.
90% of 8-16 year-olds have viewed porn online.
53% of Promise Keeper men viewed porn in the last week.
There are 25 children's character names (like Pokeman) that are linked to porn sites.

Whew! If that doesn't scare you, I don't know what will. I realize that this is not the world's problem. Do not be deceived, this is an issue that Christians must take seriously--it is an area Satan is using to gain a foothold and defeat us. Some statistics also showed that 51% of ministers have taken "just a look" at pornography, while 37% state they have a more serious problem. We do not like to hear these facts, but we can not ignore them.

As Christian women, I believe that we must take action. We must pray diligently for the men in our lives for the strength to resist Satan as he so aggressively seeks to destroy them in this area. I have been praying this already for my 8-year-old son, as well. In addition, we must not forget to pray for our church leaders. No one is "above susceptibility" on this issue. As a minister's wide, I covet the prayers of others for my husband as he serves the church.

Not only must we pray, but we must take this knowledge and make more conscious choices about the media that we consume. It is not just pornographic material that Satan uses, but images on television and movies. For goodness sake, it is a minefield for men to go through the check-out at the grocery store.

We must realize the importance of dressing modestly and teaching our daughters the importance, as well. We do not want to be a stumbling block for those around us. This is hard with many of the clothing choices out there. We desire to be fashionable and feel good about how we look, but must balance that with a modest approach.

A couple of other courses of action pertain to technology available. First, having a good filter on your computer is a must. Another resource comes from XXXchurch, a Christian online site seeking to help people break out of the bondage of pornography. They have a service that you can sign up for with other accountability partners. At the end of the week, a list of the websites you accessed is sent to your partner(s) to hold you accountable to what you are viewing.

In closing, I will mention that trends are showing more and more women falling prey to pornography. In the past couple of years, I have had an increasing number of the female college students I work with share about their struggles in this area, often through chat rooms. So we must stay on guard personally and pray also for our daughters and friends in this area, as well.

To Make You Think

2007-01-31T00:51:00.000-06:00

Here are some thoughts from Beth Moore that have been "simmering" in my mind over the past week or so:

Part of spiritual maturity is ceasing to equate hard with bad. . . Just because it is easy, does not make it good.
Sometimes we don't have a knowledge problem, we have an obedience problem.
Nothing sin can give us can be worth what it takes from us.
If we are full of ourselves, we cannot be full of the Holy Spirit.

Just wanted to share these for reflection. Please pray for my spunky 5-year-old daughter who has been running a low fever for a couple of days. Our house is strangely quiet without her usually ever-present, precious singing and talking.

Blessings!

Where I'm From

2007-01-28T21:21:00.000-06:00

This is something I originally saw at Mississippi Girl and included in one of my first blog entries. I would love to "tag" anyone who wishes to join in. I thought it was a lot of fun. Just click here for the template and leave me a comment if you do, so I can come read yours!

WHERE I'M FROM

I am from the mountains of East Tennessee, from meadows and creeks, from fireflies and playing barefoot past dark.
I am from honeysuckle, from big oak trees with tire swings.
I am from family dinners and volleyball, I am from ministers, teachers, and farmers, from laughter and loyalty.
From making mudpies and putting on shows with my brother and cousins, from family celebrations, beach trips, from acres of land, from acting in plays and family devotions.
I am from a family of Christian ministry, not perfect but marked by struggle and perseverance, from Baptist hymns, cover dish suppers, and mission trips. I am from a wise and loving father who played with me before reading the paper at night and from an incredibly creative and talented mother who inspires me. From growing up with a brother who was my best friend and is now one of my heroes.
I am from the South, sweet tea and biscuits.
From moving five times before the age of 8, from the athletic grandmother I never knew, from singing with my brother, and from boardgames.
I am from being tucked in, believed in, and shown grace. I am from a place that has lovingly prepared me for where I am going. I am from a place of blessing that I did not deserve and am grateful for every day.

A Kind of Magic

2007-01-26T09:40:00.000-06:00

One of the books I am presently reading is a novel by Diane Setterfield called "The Thirteenth Tale." I am really enjoying it and will share my thoughts on the book as a whole when I finish. I have noted quite a few passages along the way that have provoked some reflection on my part. This is the first:

People disappear when they die. Their voice, their laughter, the warmth of their breath. Their flesh. Eventually their bones. All living memory of them ceases. This is both dreadful and natural. Yet for some there is an exception to this annihilation. For in books they write, they continue to exist. We can rediscover them. Their humor, their tone of voice, their moods. Through the written word they can anger you or make you happy. They can comfort you. They can perplex you. They can alter you. All this, even though they are dead. Like flies in amber, like corpses frozen in ice, that which according to the laws of nature should pass away is, by the miracle of ink on paper, preserved. It is a kind of magic.

Of course, as Christians, we have an eternal perspective and know that we do not "disappear" when we die, but in every earthly way, we do. We cease to exist and impact this world. As generations pass and our direct influence on those around us is gone, in a sense, we disappear. I do believe that through our actions and the way we influence that we create a heritage of faith that reverberates over time, but this passage caused me to reflect on the power of the written word.

I guess this struck a chord with me because I do enjoy reading so much. I think there is something to note in the fact that God chose to share with us through the written word. It is concrete, yet abstract in many ways. At different times in our lives, it comes to mean different things to us. Passages once empty for us, become alive with meaning. People from long ago impact us, becoming real and living through what we read.

Also, a book freezes in time the author's thoughts and reflections, giving us clues about them. A novel written at one time in an author's life might never have come into existence at another time in their life, because in many ways, we are products of our experiences. Of course autobiographies, biographies, and personal journals give us a very direct glimpse into someone's life, but fiction and other non-fiction sources also reflect a part of the author. I think that is why so many of us feel a connection with certain authors--we feel as though we know them. I know many of us have authors we feel that way about--from Laura Ingalls Wilder to Elisabeth Elliot to Jane Austen.

My favorite line from this passage is - "They can alter you." This has been so true in my life. Authors, through their written words, have altered me. Their personal thoughts have influenced and changed me. I will never forget reading "The Hiding Place" by Corrie ten Boom or "The Celebration of Discipline" by Richard Foster, among many others that have impacted me. God used those books to grow me in numerous ways--I was altered.

Even more so, I have been altered by Scripture. God has breathed His truth into me through the words written by men, but inspired by Him. Amazing! It is truly a kind of magic.

What I Love About the South

2007-01-25T00:42:00.000-06:00

I was born and raised in the South. I count this a blessing. I get a bit irritated at the stereotypes that are portrayed in the media at times. Every part of the country has its positive and negative qualities but I wanted to take a moment to share some of the things that I love about the South. By no means are the things listed below exclusive to the South, but just reflect my personal experience. Also, the South itself is diverse, so some might not apply to all areas or states.

1) Sweet tea!

2) Rocking chairs and front porches - and the long, summer evenings spent there.

3) Grits - I about fell out of my chair when a classmate in grad school said she had never eaten grits (she was from New York).

4) SEC football

5) Southern hospitality - it is for real!

6) Picking out pumpkins at the pumpkin patch.

7) Farmer's Market - my kids love going on Saturday mornings in the summer.

8) Church-wide cover dish suppers

9) Heritage of gospel, bluegrass, and country music

10) Manners - I just heard today a newscaster say how he loves how kids in the South still say "yes sir" and "yes ma'am" in the South.

11) Honeysuckle and fireflies (or lightning bugs, as we called them)

12) the Southern accent, which comes in many forms - Y'all know what I'm talkin' about

13) Barbecue, pinto beans, cornbread, homemade apple pie & banana pudding

These are just a few, and I would love to hear from you southern girls what you love most about living in or growing up in the South.

Entanglements

2007-01-24T10:17:00.000-06:00

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.
--Hebrews 12:1-2

We can be entangled by so many things. I attended a women's conference this past weekend that focused on this piece of scripture. We were challenged to identify those things that entangle us--and throw them off! We carry our sin around like heavy shopping bags, weighing us down, burdening us. This is not what Christ died for--for us to live in bondage, but rather to live victory through His resurrection power. Our speaker stressed that we must repent and submit to Him and claim the promises of forgiveness, cleansing, and healing (2 Chronicles 7:14; I John 1:9).

My prayer is that we ladies will get rid of the excess baggage and live in victory! I have been examining myself over the past few days to identify those burdens that I must throw off. Here is a list we were given to get us thinking about potential entanglements. Some are tough but necessary to answer for ourselves.

Feelings of inferiority?
Fear of failure?
Do not give God the glory?
Fail to be a witness for Christ?
Complain?
Argue?
Find fault?
Critical spirit?
Angry with self . . . or others?
Careless with your body?
Attend worship in body only?
Neglect own personal time with the Lord?
Exaggerate - don't tell things as they really are?
Have a lustful eye toward the opposite sex?
Fill mind with things of the world - not on things above?
Secretly pleased at the misfortunes of others?
Jealous of others' successes?
Have you not forgiven someone?
Do you waste time?
Are you "money" hungry?
Are you a "fake"?
Enjoy listening to gossip?
Do you pass gossip on?
Do you believe rumors or partial truths?
Do you neglect to thank God for all things?

Throw these things off! Live in victory!

Finger Prayers

2007-01-22T23:37:00.000-06:00

Just thought I would pass on this simple way to pray for others. Great to use with young children--gives them an illustration and guide for their prayers.

Your thumb is the digit nearest to your heart, so pray first for those
who are closest to you. Members of your family, friends, neighbors and your own needs as well.

The second finger is the one used for pointing. Pray for those who point you toward the truth, whether at church or school. Pray for your teachers, mentors, pastors, and those who inspire your faith.

The third finger is the tallest. Let it stand for the leaders in every sphere of life. Pray for those in authority-both within the body of Christ and those who hold offices in various areas of government.

The fourth finger is the weakest, as every pianist knows. Let it stand for those who are in trouble and pain-the sick, injured, abused, wounded, or hurt.

The little finger is the smallest. Let is stand for those who often go unnoticed, including those who suffer abuse and deprivation.

A Multiplicity of Patches

2007-01-21T23:18:00.000-06:00

In the past few years I have become fascinated with quilts. The heritage of of quilt-making in our nation is rich. Before scrapbooking, stamping, and other popular craft hobbies of today, there was quilting, sewing, needlepoint, knitting, and so on. Initially these "hobbies" were necessary diversions, not just a creative outlet. Women of past generations clothed their families and decorated their homes through these "hobbies"--there was no Pottery Barn, Target, or Pier 1 (ouch!)

I am not saying that I wish to go back to those days, but I do long for a greater connection to simplicity of life of that era-not that is was easy at all, just less cluttered. I love to look in antique shops at old quilts and marvel at the creativity that is displayed. Many are patchwork quilts made from pieces of fabric left over from a multitude of other projects, artfully put together to make something not only useful, but beautiful.

I took a quilt class about a year and a half ago--this was quite an experience for someone who had NEVER sewed in her life. I learned so much and was pleased with the baby quilt that I was able to make for my niece. What I probably enjoyed the most was getting to know other ladies in the class and the ladies who worked at the quilt shop. I was the "young 'un" of the group. It made me think of how women used to get together for quilting bees--what a time of fellowship, a place for women of all ages to connect. Although we have ladies' groups in churches and communities, it seems we have lost the need to depend on one another like they seemed to years ago. We are more isolated. I think maybe that is why so many of us enjoy blogging--a way to connect. This is a God-given, built-in desire for us. God created us to be in relationship with Him and with each other.

ON A SIDE NOTE . . .

Some great children's books on quilting are Rag Coat by Lauren Mills and The Quilting Bee by Gail Gibbons.

IN ANOTHER DIRECTION . . .

I also love the stories that many quilts tell and the metaphors that can be derived from quilting. One of my favorite movies, How to Make an American Quilt based on the book by Whitney Otto, interweaves the story of a group of friends and their lives as they make a wedding quilt together. Here is one of my favorite quotes:

Young lovers seek perfection. Old lovers learn the art of sewing shreds together and seeing beauty in a multiplicity of patches.

Isn't that so true? When we are young, we seek perfection in everything, most often for prideful reasons. As we get older, we learn to be content with where we are in life. I am not saying that we shouldn't strive for excellence, but we should also see the beauty in where God has placed us. I once read, "Contentment is destroyed by comparison." I desire to be satisfied with what God has given me and see the beauty in a "multiplicity of patches."

My Rights

2007-01-18T23:29:00.000-06:00

"What about my rights?" This is such a common cry we hear these days-even as Christians. We can get all bent out of shape when we feel our rights have been violated. While there are times of valid concern in this area, this prevalent attitude seems to stem from the self-focused nature of our society. This proves to be a seductive problem for many Christians today--for me! By allowing myself to shift focus onto what I am entitled to, I take them off of Christ and His desire for my life.

God is really teaching me that the reality of the Chrisitan life demands that we forego our rights. I am currently doing the study Living Beyond Yourself, and Beth Moore points out that foregoing our rights is a characteristic of the crucified life.

I have been crucifed with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. (Galatians 2:20)

Christ is my example for this. He could have "called ten thousand angels" or spoken in His own defense, but made the decision to forego His rights to be the ultimate sacrifice for us. God is speaking to me that I must surrender as Christ did.

You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. (I Corinthians 6:20)

Even when I want to claim my rights, as a Christian, the truth is that I cannot. I am not my own, but bought with a price. While the world might see this as bondage--it is actually freedom! Below are the lyrics to a song by Ginny Owens that capture much of what is in my heart.

Got a stack of books so I could learn how to live;
Many are left half-read covered by the cobwebs on my shelf.
And I got a list of laws growing longer everyday;
If I keep pluggin' away, maybe one day I'll perfect myself.
Oh, but all of my labor seems to be in vain;
And all of my laws just cause me more pain;
So I fall before You in all of my shame;
Ready and willing to be changed

Own me, take all that I am,
and heal me with the blood of the Lamb.
Mold me with Your gracious hand;
Break me till I'm only Yours-
Own me

You call me Daughter,
And You take my blame;
And You run to meet me,
When I cry out Your name,
So I fall before You in all of my shame,
Lord, I am willing to be changed

Own me, take all that I am,
and heal me with the blood of the Lamb.
Mold me with Your gracious hand;
Break me till I'm only Yours-
Own me

5 Great Lessons

2007-01-16T00:57:00.000-06:00

Enjoy these 5 stories that illustrate lessons that life teaches us. I wish I could note where I got this--it has been in my files for ages since my mom shared it with me. These are great!

First Important Lesson ~ Everyone is significant.

During my second month of nursing school, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions, until I read the last one "What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school? Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her name? I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade. "Absolutely," said the professor. "In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say 'hello'." "I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.

Second Important Lesson~ Pickup in the Rain
One night, at 11:30 PM, an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride. Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960s. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxi cab. She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached. It read: "Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed away. God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others."
Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole

Third Important Lesson ~Always remember those who serve you.
In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10 year old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him. "How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked. "Fifty cents," replied the waitress. The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it." Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired. By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient.
"Thirty-five cents," she brusquely replied." The little boy again counted his coins.
"I'll have the plain ice cream," he said. The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left. When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies – You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.

Fourth Important Lesson ~ The Obstacle in Our Path
In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the king for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way. Then a peasant
came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the king indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand. Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.

Fifth Important Lesson ~ Giving When it Counts
Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare and serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister. I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, "Yes, I'll do it if it will save her.." As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheeks. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away?" Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her. You see understanding and attitude, after all, is everything.

"Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you've never been hurt,

Dance like you do when you think no one is watching."

A Sphere of Influence

2007-01-14T20:20:00.000-06:00

How do you use the fearful gift of influence? At its best, it teaches, nurtures, encourages, exhorts, evangelizes, and disciples. At worst, it cripples and kills. The line between influence and manipulation is extremely fine. Influence is so easy to use, it's frightening. Maybe it's the reason God exhorts us to "gentle and quiet" spirits. We need to think before we speak and act.

God has really gotten a hold of me this week through two Bible studies that I am doing. The question posed by Beth Moore in Living Beyond Yourself above--"How do you use the fearful gift of influence?" brought some reflection in my heart.

Beth points out that women have been given a "most wonderful and terrible" gift--the power of influence. This is so true--all the way back to Eve! As wives and mothers, we have a special sphere of influence with our family. Our words and actions often dictate the tone of our home. We can choose to use our influence to build up and point to Christ or to manipulate for selfish gain. There is a very deceptive and thin line distinguishing the two.

I have felt especially convicted this week to recommit myself to a "gentle and quiet" spirit--to think carefully and purposefully about using my influence to make our home a place where Christ is reflected and glorified.

Be encouraged, my bloggy friends, in your high calling to influence your home for the Kingdom. Amidst dirty diapers, piles of laundry, and grey hairs is a precious sphere of influence that belongs to you alone.

Glimpse of Heaven

2007-01-11T09:18:00.001-06:00

I posted last week about the Passion '07 Conference attended by over 20,000 college students. I thought I would give you a small glimpse by posting this song from last year's Passion Conference in Nashville.

My brother was there and said he had never had a corporate worship experience quite like this. It was the last night of the conference. The over 18,000 students and leaders returned from breakout groups and sat in the arena in complete silence for an hour guided by words and throughts on a screen reflecting on Christ. Then they were led in this precious hymn and chorus by Kristian Stanfill and the Passion team.

This video brings tears to my eyes! For me, this is about as close to experiencing what heaven is going to be like that we can get. Multitudes praising Him together with hands lifted high. We will come together across nationality, denomination, music preference, culture, and so many other diferences to praise our Lord in unison. Won't that be amazing?

Ragamuffins

2007-01-09T11:16:00.000-06:00

I have been tagged by my friend, Kim! Here were the instructions:

1) Grab the book closest to you.
2) Open to page 123, go down to the 4th sentence.
3) Post the text of the following 3 sentences on your blog.
4) Name the author and book title.
5) Tag 3 people to do the same.

I grabbed The Ragamuffin Gospel by Brennan Manning sitting on the corner of my desk from the Fall Reading Challenge.

We don't like the sight of ourselves as we really are, so we try cosmetics, makeup, the right light, and the proper accessories to develop an acceptable image of ourselves. We rely on the stylish disguise that has made us look good or at least look away from our true self. Self -deception mortgages our sinfulness and prevents us from seeing ourselves as we really are-ragamuffins.

Whoa! Not easy words to hear, especially for us ladies. Why do we have such a hard time embracing who God made us to be? Why do we seek to present ourselves in the way we believe is the "right" way? I can be so guilty of wanting to hide aspects about myself that I perceive to be "broken" or "not desirable." Through this, I do not acknowledge that He is strong through my weakness--that He is exalted through any accomplishment or success I might attain. By not calling myself a ragamuffin-a sinner in need of a Savior, I cheapen the grace He extends me.
I do desire and will continue to strive to be authentic--I believe that this "realness" brings growth.

Kim at Lifesong mentioned how we can often do this in the blogworld and she is mulling some thoughts on a post on this topic. I am anxious to read her reflections!

I am now tagging Chris, Lisa, and Paula.

What's your Bible study method?

2007-01-07T23:36:00.000-06:00

I know that many of us are involved with various Bible studies and other reading, but I was curious to hear from you guys about your approach to Bible study. Recently I have read about the Life Journal that Chris uses and the Bible journaling method that Diane uses. Both sound like amazing ways to learn, and I would really like to try these in the future.

This year my husband and I are reading the Daily Bible to do a broad, chronological study of scripture. I am typically an ESV reader, so will be cross-referencing a bit. I also like to journal reflections, as well as use various commentaries and word study resources. I also recently purchased a new Bible atlas which I am really excited about-- I like to visualize when I read.

What are some of the Bible study methods that you use? What study tools do you enjoy?

268 Generation

2007-01-04T23:32:00.000-06:00

God has called me to work college students over the past 12 years in various part-time and full-time capacities-teaching, coaching, residence life, and mentoring. I have a deep love for this group. The college years are such an exciting time of growth-a time of making many significant life decisions. Students are "taking flight" and making their faith their own in many ways. I love the passion and the eagerness to learn & serve that I see in students I work with. They are praying for God's direction--many going to seminary and to the Journeyman program. I have one former student in Central Asia and one leaving next month for Africa.

Unfortunately, it is also a time that Satan relentlessly attacks them through pornography, materialism, body image issues, eating disoders, depression, etc. He desperately wants to prevent all that promise and passion from impacting the world for God's glory.

Over 20,000 college students from all the states and numerous countries around the world converged on Atlanta this past week for the Passion Conference, targeting 18-25 year-olds. It is a time of learning, worshiping, and catching a vision for the lost world around them and their role in reaching it. Speakers included John Piper, Beth Moore, Francis Chan, and Louie Giglio. Please pray for these students as they return to their campuses and communities. Pray that their enthusiasm and desire to know & serve Christ will be encouraged and nurtured in their churches.

For more information on Passion, click here. From this site, you can also access each session online and enjoy the worship time and speakers.

Renovation

2007-01-03T01:35:00.000-06:00

Renovate: to renew; to restore to life; to impart a new vigor to; to repair or improve something

As I reflected on the new year, one word kept coming to mind - renovate. One reason might be that we are in the middle of renovating a new home on 8 acres we purchased last year (actually my husband is doing the renovating-I can't take credit). It is a long process of tearing away the old and run down, and replacing it with a new, more solid structure.

As I think about this word, I know that my heart needs to be renovated - to be restored, to be renewed, to be imparted with new vigor, and in many cases, repaired or improved. This is a slow, often painful, process. The result , though, is a more solid struture on a firm foundation. I so long to be a solid stucture for the Lord--to be used by Him for His glory.

Therefore, I am adopting the idea of renovation as my theme for 2007.

"Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me." (ESV)

Favorite Christmas Books

2006-12-21T10:10:00.000-06:00

I love reading to my children. Christmas is a wonderful time to snuggle up and read together. Here are some of our favorites that we bring out during the Christmas season. Just click on the title to access the Amazon link and learn more about the book.

1) The Story of Holly and Ivy - A wonderful story about a little girl and doll finding a home and each other at Christmas.

2) Peter Spier's Christmas! - One of my absolute favorites! Peter Spier's illustrations are amazing and the books are wordless-you and your kids tell the story. My children love his books-other include Noah's Ark, Jonah, Rain, People, & Circus. Like Christmas!, many are out of print, but can be found from sellers on Amazon. So worth it. Christmas! walks throught he Christmas season with a family-shopping, decorating, playing in the snow, feasting, celebrating, and worshipping! Can you tell that I like this book?

3) The Christmas Miracle of Jonathan Toomey - This beautiful book tells the story of a grieving carpenter whose heart is touched through carving a nativity scene for a widow and her son. The illustrations are more like paintings. I have the old version-a newer, smaller version is now in print.

4) The Story of Christmas - This board book of the Nativity story is still a favorite with with 8 and 5-year olds.

5) The Night Before Christmas - What's Christmas eve without this classic book? We love the version illustrated by Will Moses, his detailed folk art-inspired pictures are so fun to look at!

6) The Apple Tree Christmas - Charming story of a simple farm family and their apple tree. Watercolor pictures makes this a beautiful and sweet read highlightling the love of a father for his daughters.

7) Christmas Day in the Morning - A heart-warming story of a very special gift that a boy gives his father for Christmas.

8) The Year of the Perfect Christmas Tree - Like The Story of Holly and Ivy, this book is illustrated by Caldecott Medalist Barbara Cooney-wonderful illustrations and story. We get teary-eyed at the end.

9) The Pine Tree Parable - Sweet story about a family of Christmas tree growers and their gift to a poor family that parallels the sacrifice made for us.

10) The Nutcracker - Our favorite version of this classic story.

11) The Twelve Days of Christmas - Favorite version of this book and carol that we read and sing together.

12) The Alcott Family Christmas - Fans of Little Women will love this sweet Christmas story about the more important things that money can't buy.

13) Silent Night - Another book illustrated by Will Moses that tells the story of the Miller family with the lyrics of the famous song as inspiration.

Charlotte's Web

2006-12-15T23:46:00.000-06:00

If you are looking for a sweet family movie for the holidays that everyone can enjoy (G-rated), then look no further. Charlotte's Web, the live action version, came out today. After our children's recitation day at school, we splurged for an afternoon at the movies--popcorn, too!

Charlotte's Web is a favorite around our house-one of our first read-alouds and one of my son's first chapter books completed on his own. Since I grew up on the cartoon version of the movie, I was not too sure about the new live action version. Gone are the song and dance numbers, which I read E.B. White (the author) was not a fan of when the first movie came out. What you do get in this movie is amazing, life-like effects and great acting and voice talent--Dakota Fanning, Julia Roberts, Robert Redford, Oprah Winfrey, and many more. It really is a quality production put together by Walden Media, the group that has brought The Chronicles of Narnia to the big screen.

Overall, I think this was a very endearing movie with a lot of positive messages. Hopefully, families will show great support for movies such as these so that studios will try to make more clean family movies to meet the demand. For more details, check out my favorite movie review source--Plugged In at Focus on the Family's website.

Broken Places

2006-12-12T08:57:00.000-06:00

A farmer had some puppies he needed to sell. He painted a sign advertising the pups and set about nailing it to a post on the edge of his yard. As he was driving the last nail into the post, he felt a tug on his overalls. He looked down into the eyes of a little boy. "Mister," he said, "I want to buy one of your puppies." "Well," said the farmer, as he rubbed the sweat off the back of his neck, "these puppies come from fine parents and cost a good deal of
money." The boy dropped his head for a moment. Then reaching deep into his pocket, he pulled out a handful of change and held it up to the farmer. "I've got thirty-nine cents. Is that enough to take a look?" "Sure," said the farmer. And with that he let out a whistle, "Here, Dolly!" he called. Out from the doghouse and down the ramp ran Dolly followed by four little balls of fur. The little boy pressed his face against the chain link fence. His eyes danced with delight. As the dogs made their way to the fence the little boy noticed something else stirring inside the doghouse. Slowly another little ball appeared; this one noticeably smaller. Down the ramp it slid. Then in a somewhat awkward manner the little pup began hobbling toward the others, doing its best to catch up...."I want that one," the little boy said, pointing to the runt. The farmer knelt down at the boy's side and said, "Son, you don't want that puppy. He will never be able to run and play with you like these other dogs would." With that the little boy stepped back from the fence, reached down, and began rolling up one leg of his trousers. In doing so he revealed a steel brace running down both sides of his leg attaching itself to a specially made shoe. Looking back up at the farmer, he said, "You see sir, I don't run too well myself, and he will need someone who understands."

The world is full of people who need someone who understands.

I love this story. Our broken places don't have to limit our ability to be used by God. He is the redeemer of broken things- "when we are weak, He is strong." One of the most powerful experiences I have had is when God used a painful, broken part of my life to minister to those around me. Before I had my son, I had a miscarriage. During the year after this loss, I had three friends go through the same experience. I was able to walk with them and encourage them in a way that someone who had never experienced a miscarriage could not. When we are willing to see our broken places as an opportunity to minister, He is faithful to redeem the pain and use it for His kingdom. I found so much healing in that.

Being Faithful

2006-12-11T00:09:00.000-06:00

Sometimes when I hear comments like "we just need to be faithful," I think to myself "what does that mean??" Besides gleaning wisdom from scripture, I like to have word pictures to help me visualize concepts. Ann Kiemel, a favorite writer, explained faithfulness like this:

it is not: "Jesus, i will be deeply committed to You if You'll heal my brother . . . or increase my salary . . . or give me that new house . . . or make me famous."

it is rather: "Jesus, i will follow You to the end. no guarantees asked. no special rewards except that You will be at the end of the road to meet me when i get there . . .
and i will know that i have lived my life out in truth. whatever is along the road . . . during the race . . . "yes" to it. to anything You bring into my life."

I love this! Being faithful means saying "yes" to Christ along the road. Being faithful means that we follow Christ for the sole purpose that He will be at the end of our journey. Our reward is Him!

Christmas Fun

2006-12-07T02:11:00.000-06:00

This Playmobil nativity set has been a huge hit around our house. It has a lot of play pieces that the kids love arranging and re-arranging. We are big fans of Playmobil sets because of their quality, durability, and amazing detail. I bought this 3 years ago to have a nativity that they could play with and tell the story with. I would highly recommend this as an addition to your Christmas fun. I love watching my kids "act out" the story.

The Valley of Vision

2006-12-03T22:54:00.000-06:00

One of my favorite book discoveries over the past year has been "The Valley of Vision," a collection of puritan prayers and devotions edited by Arthur Bennett. It is a rich source of spiritual thought with depth not often seen today. The prayers and devotions are divided under sections such as, redemption & reconciliation, penitence, needs & devotions, gifts of grace, and service & ministry. The language is not "updated," but retains the original, more formal style in which the prayers were written. I really enjoyed and appreciated the beauty of their expression. This is a great book to add to your library or to give as a gift. I refer to this book often and always challenged to go deeper.

Following is the opening prayer and one of my favorites.

The Valley of Vision

Lord, high and holy, meek and lowly,

Thou hast brought me to the valley of vision, where I live in the depths but see thee in the heights; hemmed in by mountains of sin I behold thy glory.

Let me learn by paradox that the way down is the way up, that to be low is to be high, that the broken heart is the healed heart, that the contrite spirit is the rejoicing spirit, that the repenting soul is the victorious soul, that to have nothing is to possess all, that to bear the cross is to wear the crown, that to give is to receive, that the valley is the place of vision.

Lord, in the daytime stars can be seen from deepest wells, and the deeper the wells the brighter thy stars shine.

Let me find thy light in my darkness, thy life in my death, thy joy in my sorrow, thy grace in my sin, thy ruches in my poverty, thy glory in my valley.

When You Thought I Wasn't Looking . . .

2006-12-01T10:03:00.000-06:00

Those little eyes are always watching, and soaking it in. That certainly gives me pause!

"When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you hang my first painting on the refrigerator, and I immediately wanted to paint another one.
When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you feed a stray cat, and I learned that it was good to be kind to animals.
When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you make my favorite cake for me and I learned that little things can be the special things in life.
When you thought I wasn't looking, I heard you say a prayer, and I knew there is a God I could always talk to and I learned to trust in God.
When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you make a meal and take it to a friend who was sick, and I learned that we all have to help take care ofeach other.
When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you give of your time and money to help people who had nothing and I learned that those who have something should give to those who don't.
When you thought I wasn't looking, I felt you kiss me good night and I felt loved and safe.
When you though I wasn't looking, I saw you take care of our house and everyone in it and I learned we have to take care of what we are given.
When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw how you handled your responsibilities, even when you didn't feel good and I learned that Iwould have to be responsible when I grow up.
When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw tears come from your eyes and I learned that sometimes things hurt, but its all right to cry.
When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw that you cared and I wanted to be everything that I could be.
When you thought I wasn't looking, I learned most of life's lessons that I need to know to be good and productive person when I grow up.
When you thought I wasn't looking, I looked at you and wanted to say,Thanks for all the things I saw when you thought I wasn't looking.'"
Each of us - parent, grandparent or friend - influence the life of a child.

--author unknown

I Corinthians 13 for Moms

2006-11-29T22:29:00.000-06:00

My precious Mom sent this to me and I thought I would pass it along.

1 Corinthians 13 for Moms

I can read bedtime stories till the cow jumps over the moon and sing "Ten Little Monkeys" until I want to call the doctor--but if I don't have love, I'm as annoying as a ringing phone.

I can chase a naked toddler through the house while cooking dinner and listening to voice mail, I can fix the best cookies and Kool-Aid in the neighborhood, and I can tell a sick child's temperature with one touch of my finger, but if I don't have love, I am nothing.

Love is patient while watching and praying by the front window when it's 30 minutes past curfew. Love is kind when my teen says, "I hate you!" It does not envy the neighbors'swimming pool or their brand-new mini van, but trusts the Lord to provide every need.

Love does not brag when other parents share their disappointments and insecurities, and love rejoices when other families succeed.

It doesn't boast, even when I've multi-tasked all day long and my husband can't do more than one thing at a time.

Love is not rude when my spouse innocently asks, "What have you done today?"

It does not immediately seek after glory when we see talent in our children, but encourages them to get training and make wise choices.

It is not easily angered, even when my 15-year-old acts like the world revolves around her.

It does not delight in evil (is not self-righteous) when I remind my 17-year-old that he's going 83 in a 55-mph zone, but rejoices in the truth.

Love does not give up hope. It always protects our children's self-esteem and spirit, even while doling out discipline.

It always trusts God to protect our children when we cannot.

It always perseveres, through blue nail polish, burps and other bodily functions, rolled eyes and crossed arms, messy rooms and sleep overs.

Love never fails. But where there are memories of thousands of diaper changes and painful labor(s), they will fade away. Where there is talking back, it will (eventually) cease. (Please, Lord?)

Where there is a teenager who thinks she knows everything, there will one day be an adult who knows you did your best.

For we know we fail our children, and we pray they don't end up in therapy, but when we get to heaven, our imperfect parenting will disappear. (Thank you, God!)

When we were children, we needed a parent to love and protect us. Now that we're parents ourselves, we have a heavenly Father who adores, shelters us and holds us when we need to cry.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

Noise, hurry, & crowds

2006-11-25T08:42:00.000-06:00

I am not a Black Friday shopper every year. I prefer hunting presents throughout the year to avoid the crazniess. I usually have a few things left in November and will join in the holiday shopping scene after Thanksgiving with my Mom. This year, there was a particular item my husband really wanted on sale at Target (love Target!) for half off. So, my Mom and I got up and headed there at 6am--only for my hubby! I could not believe the line--it was SO long. As I stood there for 15 minutes waiting for them to open, I was really disappointed to see the behavior of grown adults--some trying to rush in and cut line, and others yelling at the line cutters. It really made me sad to see how many people have distorted this season, and Satan scores a victory in distracting us from Christ.

As I was reflecting later in the day, I was reminded of a quote from one of my favorite books, Celebration of Discipline by Richard Foster. He wrote:

In contemporary society our Adversary majors in three things: noise, hurry, and crowds. If he can keep us engaged in "muchness" and "manyness," he will rest satisfied.

This applies to life at all times. Our society always seems rushed and busy, with devastating effects on our families, our children, and ourselves! If we are not careful, we Christians, can be swept away with the chaotic flow, as well. I believe that I must make a conscious decision to purpose to not go with that flow. It is hard many times, but so necessary.

I want to challenge myself during this season in particular to not get too distracted by "muchness" and "manyness," but to "be still and know He is God."

My Brother

2006-11-23T15:11:00.000-06:00

I am so blessed to have my brother. We are the best of friends--he is a great blessing in my life. It was just the two of us growing up (we are 2 years apart), so we are pretty close. We never really fussed like many siblings, and loved hanging out with each other (still do). The sibling relationship is so unique in that many times it spans a lifetime--sharing the "growing years" and on into adulthood.

He is a youth pastor, fantastic uncle, and one amazing Christian guy. Just another part of my life to be truly grateful for during this time of year.

Celebration of Girlfriends

2006-11-21T00:12:00.000-06:00

At Thanksgiving I am particularly reflective on the many blessings in my life. One of those blessings has been great friendships. God has used many women to teach me, challenge me, and encourage me, and I pray I have been able to be a similar instrument in the lives of the women in my life. Listed below are some quotes reflecting on the special and often fun characteristics of friendships. This post is dedicated to my best girlfriend and college buddy, Crystal. Although we are now hours apart, I still feel that our hearts are a beat away.

Have friends, will giggle.
Girlfriends help you make nonsense of the world.
A friends is quick to listen, slow to judge, and always ready to shop.
A friend can make you smile--even when she's not around.
A good friend . . . has your kids' birthdays marked on her calendar.
A good friend . . .will quietly destroy the photograph that makes you look like a beached whale.
A friend is--laughing at the same things, one dessert with two forks, really being understood, never running out of things to talk about, knowing someone by heart, picking up right where you left off.
A friend knows everything about you and loves you anyway.
Between friends, words are optional.
There's no problem friends can't solve with enough time and chocolate.
Friends are the family we didn't start out with who make us feel likable, funny, and clever.
The very best friends have the kind of relationship where each thinks she's getting the better part of the deal.

Have a great day my new bloggy friends! I am thankful for you!

Christmas 20 questions

2006-11-20T10:13:00.000-06:00

1. Egg Nog or Hot Chocolate? Without a doubt, hot chocolate.

2. Does Santa wrap presents or just sit them under the tree? Santa has them sitting under the tree, ready to play with. After all, he hand makes them--no need for packaging, right?

3. Colored lights on tree/house or white? Definitely a white lights gal--becoming a white globe light fan over white icicle lights.

4. Do you hang mistletoe? Yes, we love to hug and kiss around our house.

5. When do you put your decorations up? The past few years, we have started putting them up the weekend after Thanksgiving. I love to enjoy them for the month of December.

6. What is your favorite holiday dish (excluding dessert)? That's tough. Probably my sweet potatoe souffle with brown sugar and pecan topping.

7. Favorite Holiday memory as a child: I just loved the whole holiday season filled with family trips to the mountains, church events, and fellowship. The music, the decorations, and special time of reflection during the advent season with my family.

8. When and how did you learn the truth about Santa? I don't remember specifically, but I just recall sitting on the swings at a playground with my dad talking about it. I was very protective of keeping the magic up for my younger brother for the next couple of years.

9. Do you open a gift on Christmas Eve? We let our kids pick out a small gift for one another, and open that on Christmas Eve. It's wonderful to see the care they take in picking out the perfect gift.

10. How do you decorate your Christmas Tree? I love ornaments with meaning behind them. We love to collect them over the years, so after being married for 11 years, we have built up the collection. We start with white lights and red beaded garlands. We then put on our ornaments, talking about each (who gave it to us, where we purchased it, what event it signified) . Then we add a few red, green and gold balls to bring it together. I love it--it reflects us as a family, not just matching decorations. We top it with a star.

11. Snow! Love it or Dread it? Love it--play in it, sled down it, eat it (snowcream)!

12. Can you ice skate? Yes, I used to go quite a bit as a kid--I got the Dorothy Hamill haircut as a kid if that tells you anything. I think I could still make it around without falling down, but you never know.

13. Do you remember your favorite gift? Hands down, the barbie dollhouse "Santa" brought me when I was seven. Actually, my papaw built it from real wood, and my mamaw furnished it with real wallpaper, carpet, and handmade furniture. I still have it, and am going to update it for my daughter.

14. What’s the most important thing about the Holidays for you? Cherishing time with family and reflecting on my Savior's birth, passing that on to my children.

15. What is your favorite Holiday Dessert? I think I have to go with homemade fudge. Simple, but wonderful.

16. What tops your tree? A star.

17. Which do you prefer giving or receiving? Giving--I think this shift happened in college. I enjoy more and more making gifts, as well.

18. What is your favorite Christmas Song? I love "O Holy Night." I also love Bing Crosby's "White Christmas."

19. Candy Canes! Yuck or Yum?? Yuck, not a huge peppermint fan. I like the smell and can eat them, but would rather not.

20. Favorite holiday movie? White Christmas and Holiday Inn.

Everyone join in, I'd love to hear your responses!

The Lion King

2006-11-19T23:55:00.000-06:00

I have had a weekend, jam-packed with activity. My dad came to visit, so he had the kids all day Saturday--doing whatever they wanted, of course. He says that's his job as Papaw. My husband used the free time to work on our house, and I was able to spend the day shopping. I haven't had a day to myself like that in a while. Such fun!

Then after church on Sunday, we all headed to Nashville to see "The Lion King," a traveling Broadway production. It was amazing! I've seen quite a few Broadway plays in New York, but never one quite like this one. I can't even begin to describe the incredible creativity that went into this production! If you ever have the chance to see it, don't pass!

In Christ Alone video

2006-11-13T00:15:00.000-06:00

This is has been the song in my heart lately--here with video images from movies like "Passion of the Christ." I play this over and over on my ipod.

Favorite Smells

2006-11-10T09:31:00.000-06:00

FIVE ON FRIDAY

Five of my favorite things to smell

Books--I love to open a book and stick my nose in for a big whiff!
Ocean breezes--There's nothing quite like walking on the beach at sunset.
Buttered popcorn--I am a huge fan of popcorn, especially at the movies.
Baby lotion and shampoo--Brings up wonderful memories of my children as babies asleep in my arms.
Honeysuckle--Fresh, clean, wonderful outdoors.

The Evolution of Dance

2006-11-08T09:41:00.000-06:00

WORDLESS WEDNESDAY

Click below and enjoy--it' s hysterical!

THE EVOLUTION OF DANCE

Choosing Sacrifice

2006-11-03T09:18:00.000-06:00

I am in the last week of the Beth Moore study on DANIEL. It has been one of my favorite studies and has challenged me in so many ways. I feel like I have been stretched.

In this past week's session, Beth stated that we must choose between the selfishness and sacrifice. This struck a chord with me, because I know that my selfishness is the root of other struggles--being impatient with my kids, being lazy, not serving with a joyful heart, etc. Satan does not always attack by using stuggles and tragedies in our lives, he tempts us to be selfish. He knows he will have victory if we are leading selfish lives.

Beth went on to talk about that choosing the sacrificial life will cost something, therein its worth. She used the beautiful story of Mary Magdalene pouring the costly oil on Jesus. Mary "got it." She was sacrificing, she realized His worth. Jesus responded in Mark 14:9 that she would be remembered for this act. The things that cost us much, that we sacrifice for, are what we will be remembered for in Christ's eyes.

Beth explained that if we miss the sacrificial life, we will miss our true purpose. We must be deliberate--the sacrificial life does not "just happen." I pray that I will count the cost of sacrifice each day and realize He is truly worthy of my sacrifice. I want to fulfill His purpose for me.

Our Gifts, His Glory

2006-11-01T01:24:00.000-06:00

One of my favorite quotes is from Eric Liddell, the great Scottish Olympic champion and missionary to China portrayed in the movie, Chariots of Fire. He said, " When I run, I feel His pleasure." As an athlete, this always meant a lot. Playing volleyball was not directly serving the Lord, but the WAY played volleyball could bring honor to Him. By using the talent and ability He gave me to do my best and to play with joy and good sportsmanship, I could give Him the glory. I truly could feel His pleasure as I played.

God has created us all with many unique gifts and abilities. Just because you may not teach a Bible class or serve Him directly in Christian ministry, does not mean that you cannot use the abilities He gave you to bring glory to Himself. Think outside the box about ways to use your special talents to serve Him creatively.

Facing the Giants

2006-10-29T22:24:00.000-06:00

I saw a GREAT movie over the weekend--Facing the Giants. Just wanted to recommend everyone to go see and support this movie. I wish we had more movies like this. My 8-year-old son said that it was his favorite movie, and it made me cry--more than once. Go check it out at facingthegiants.com. A church in Georgia produced this movie, with two of its ministers writing and directing it. It's an amazing story.

Autumn!

2006-10-24T08:55:00.000-05:00

I love autumn! Simply walking out in the crisp, cool air brings a flood of memories for me--Tennessee football games at Neyland Stadium, traveling to volleyball tournaments in college, jumping in leaves, bonfires, back to school excitement. I feel that autumn more and more represents my time in life. To me, Spring represents the newness and growing time of childhood. Hot summer days full of activity and play remind me of youth and early adult years. At thirty-three, I feel that I still have the energy of summer, but am moving into a more peaceful, settled time of autumn. Peaceful and settled in a sense of being comfortable in my own skin, not having to search for who I am. I feel grounded in who I am, and that feels great. In many ways, this is the most exciting time of life!

A New Adventure

2006-10-20T11:57:00.000-05:00

Over the past several months, I have been fascinated to discover blogging. What a creative way to build community long distance! I have been challenged and encouraged to read about the journey of other young Christian wives and mothers, both stay-at-home and working outside the home. This blog will be my attempt to share my experiences and what God has taught me through them in hopes of encouraging other women. I know, though, that through this process of self-reflection that God will grow and stretch me as well! Here we go . . .